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ORIGINAL: jhuperetes

As in unbecoming for a son or daughter of God.

Why do we not cuss?

Why do we find provocatively dressed brothers & sisters inappropriate anywhere?

Of course, pretending to be something that we are not is not right. But, for example to dress modestly is good as there is less chance we cause someone to lust, cause envy, or similar. the vegetables / meat that apostle Paul was talking about...

Eck. Does that make sense?

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ORIGINAL: greatdivide46

Perhaps you've heard about the grizzled old cowboy who attended a large Baptist Church in the only "duds" he had. After the service the Pastor told him he should ask God about what was proper attire for that church. The old cowboy returned to church the next Sunday wearing the same clothes. Following the service the pastor said to him, "I thought I told you to ask God what was proper to wear to church."
"I did," the old cowboy responded, "But God said He didn't know. He ain't never been here."

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ORIGINAL: McFatty
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While your definition of modesty is true, I believe in the Bible that modesty also means not dressing too expensively.

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ORIGINAL: McFatty
While your definition of modesty is true, I believe in the Bible that modesty also means not dressing too expensively.

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ORIGINAL: jhuperetes

As in unbecoming for a son or daughter of God.

Why do we not cuss?

Why do we find provocatively dressed brothers & sisters inappropriate anywhere?

Of course, pretending to be something that we are not is not right. But, for example to dress modestly is good as there is less chance we cause someone to lust, cause envy, or similar. the vegetables / meat that apostle Paul was talking about...

Eck. Does that make sense?

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ORIGINAL: greatdivide46

I've skimmed the thread so if what I'm about to say has already been mentioned I apologize in advance, but the thought comes to me: I wonder how many people who don't mind wearing jeans to church would never wear jeans to a funeral. I'm not saying wearing jeans to church is wrong, but it seems to me that if we can show our respect for the dead by dressing up for a funeral, we should be even more likely to dress up to go and worship the living God of the Universe.

Just my way of stirring the pot, so to speak.

Interesting that you would bring that up, greadivide46!


. . . Out here in the Wild, Wild West, it actually could be showing respect to wear jeans to a funeral. Many people out here are ranchers, cowboys, etc.; and all they've ever worn are jeans. I've known of some funerals where people were even requested to wear jeans.

When my late husband died (who wasn't a rancher; but definitely a cowboy-at-heart), I remember seeing several people in jeans (their choice) at the service. It didn't bother me one bit; and in fact, I would probably have found it strange to see them wearing anything else, given who they were.

I do remember I actually had, "Please dress to your comfort" (or similar wording) written in the newspaper notice that gave the specifics of the service." Some people were dressed up a bit, but they weren't "that dressed up". Me? Out of everyone there, I was probably the one most likely out-of-place . . . I wore a floor-length sage-green lace, flowy gown. That's really not "funeral-wear" no matter where the funeral is taking place.

But, I specifically wore that dress because it was my late husbands most very favorite dress of mine. In fact, per his request, I also wore it on the day of our wedding 10 months earlier.

I did struggle a bit with, "What will people think?" But I put that aside and wore the dress to the memorial service; in honor and in memory of CS.

I don't believe anyone was offended. Some people who didn't know me very well probably thought I was nuts; but then many people who do know me very well would probably confirm that I am.



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Jeans at a funeral. There were at least two pastors at my husband memorial service; one of them wore casual dress pants and a button down shirt; but then that's what he always wear anyway. The other pastor (my pastor) wore his usual: jeans.

In fact, in the >9 years that I've known my pastor, I have never seen him not wear jeans; regardless of what day of the week or time of day it is, regardless of where I saw him and regardless of whether my seeing him at that moment was planned or just a "run into" type situation.




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Showing respect via clothing ("dressing up") s a human thing. I'm not saying it's wrong or that it's not necessary. But it isn't a spirital mandate. To make it spiritual only creates more dogma.

In all honesty, however, the other day as I was walking around town and doing errands, I was thinking about his thread. I do dress up for job interviews and/or for the first time I meet a client. I do try to dress business casual throughout the workweek because it seems more professional.

I do usually ask if there's a dress code when attending certain functions; and that even does include churches that I visit (regardless of the reason for the visit). Actually, I usually don't ask; I just go with "somewhat dressy" . . . but mostly because that's what feels comfortable to me. (But around here, again, it's not at all unusual to see the majority of the congregation in jeans).





However. While my personal preference is to somewhat dress up for church, it is my preference only. Whether I am wearing a skirt or jeans, my heart at any given moment, is going to be what Our Lord is looking at. The clothing is for me; and yes, to a point, for other people (i.e., asking what to wear when visiting a church). I may be showing respect to a group of people through how I cover my body, but the respect I show to Our Lord is not at all dependent on that; the respect I show to Our Lord comes from an internal source and nothing covering my body is going to increase nor diminish who I am, inside.

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ORIGINAL: greatdivide46

I've skimmed the thread so if what I'm about to say has already been mentioned I apologize in advance, but the thought comes to me: I wonder how many people who don't mind wearing jeans to church would never wear jeans to a funeral. I'm not saying wearing jeans to church is wrong, but it seems to me that if we can show our respect for the dead by dressing up for a funeral, we should be even more likely to dress up to go and worship the living God of the Universe.

Just my way of stirring the pot, so to speak.

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I used to attend a church where people dressed to the nines every week - men and women. I never really *noticed* it until one week when I was running pretty late and ended up sitting in the back, where I was in a position to observe all the glitz and glitter of waaaaaaay too much flashy jewelry. I was so offended by the proud display of wealth going on that I never went back. Good grief - were those people dressing for church to praise God or are they attending a Hollywood cocktail party?

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ORIGINAL: greatdivide46

I've skimmed the thread so if what I'm about to say has already been mentioned I apologize in advance, but the thought comes to me: I wonder how many people who don't mind wearing jeans to church would never wear jeans to a funeral. I'm not saying wearing jeans to church is wrong, but it seems to me that if we can show our respect for the dead by dressing up for a funeral, we should be even more likely to dress up to go and worship the living God of the Universe.

Just my way of stirring the pot, so to speak.

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I don't think the deceased cares one iota as to what you're wearing, and the family is dealing with their own emotions that they wouldn't notice you wearing a potato sack.

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings
I'm interested in hearing what denomination y'all are.

I'm wondering if that plays a factor in what someone wears to church.

If you feel comfortable doing so, please tell me your denomination and how you dress when you go to church (why you dress the way you do). Also if you're from the U.S., please tell me what part of the country you're from; and if you're from another country, please list that as well.

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ORIGINAL: Eutychus

Actually, even family members of the deceased seldom wear suits & ties to funerals around here and hardly any of the guests. Times have changed, it's not like it was 20-40 years ago when we were young.

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

I'm interested in hearing what denomination y'all are.

I'm wondering if that plays a factor in what someone wears to church.

If you feel comfortable doing so, please tell me your denomination and how you dress when you go to church (why you dress the way you do). Also if you're from the U.S., please tell me what part of the country you're from; and if you're from another country, please list that as well.

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ORIGINAL: jhuperetes
Got it. I have been the shabbos goy for some of my friends.

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ORIGINAL: Covaan_Meshuga

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ORIGINAL: jhuperetes
Got it. I have been the shabbos goy for some of my friends.

It occurs to me! What I wrote is not exactly the truth! I DO wear a tallit katan under my clothes. I don't think of it as a tallit! I just don't wear tallit gadol outside my house. Sorry!