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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 9:12:21 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Now when he hits, we firmly say no and he has to say sorry (give a hug) to the person he hit.
We do the sorry thing, and we also talk about how "hands are for loving", I try and redirect to something more positive.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 9:15:20 AM
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he is also old enough to start learning that words are the way to express anger. Not that he's old enough to actually do it, but you can start planting the idea.
"NO hitting! Are you angry because sister took your toy? Let's tell her that makes you angry."
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 4:00:28 PM
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clag4christ
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Hmm..speaking of therapy and Early Intervention...we have our Early Intervention annual evaluation today. We are optimistic that Isaac will qualify out of it, but we'll see. We didnt feel he needed anything to start with, neither did his therapist, but his evaluator was kinda snotty and put him 100% behind in some areas. I think we have a different evaluator today (hope so). His therapist was supposed to come once a month but she only came like 4 times total the last year. But she says he's doing very well.
Isaac's cousin was in visiting this weekend, they are the same age, and she has very much an atitutde (yelling "NO" and hitting when she doesnt get her way). Isaac has been exhibiting some of her attitude this weekend.  But he seemed back to his sweet self this morning, I handed him his sippy and he looks up at me and goes "TAINT TEW!" (Thank You) 
In our experiences with misbehaved or sassy children we've found the same to be the case, unfortunately.
That's awesome about the thank you! 
Tammy- In our house, we spank for hitting if it's done in malice and only after we're sure they understand completely the ground rules here that "Hands are for soft touches, lovings, and tickles" which we model and ask them to show (and tell when they're verbal) us they know how after an incidence of hitting.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 4:05:45 PM
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manda59
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Tammy- In our house, we spank for hitting if it's done in malice
Kim, could I ask from what age? Tammy's boy isn't even two yet - for me personally that's too young for spanking.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 4:15:43 PM
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clag4christ
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Tammy- In our house, we spank for hitting if it's done in malice
Kim, could I ask from what age? Tammy's boy isn't even two yet - for me personally that's too young for spanking.
It depends upon the understanding of the child, ime. 21 months is not too young for a quick swat if he/she can comprehend that hitting is a no-no. But we don't usually start spanking in our house before 18 months and use redirection and voice (i.e. over dramatized OUCH!) which usually stops the behavior in smaller children.
A typical scenario in our house before the rules were completely understood woul look like this--
Young child just hit mommy...Me: "OUCH that hurt Mommy!! Our hands are for sweet touches, lovings and tickles not for hitting" Then I physically take the childs hand and have them rub on my arm/hand so the know what a soft touch is. I give a kiss & hug and we move on. That is the beginning of our discipline with hitting. After the child clearly knows the rules then we move on to spanking if it continues.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 5:23:49 PM
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Isaac put on a true show for his evaluator today. He said "Thank You". Matched the circle and square puzzle pieces accordingly. Picked up the small objects. Handed her stuff when asked. Pointed out mama and daddy. Walked around. Talked up a storm. Colored with the crayons. The ONLY things she wished he would have been doing was standing up from the floor without pulling up on something, walking a little bit steadier, and stacking blocks. But she said she wasnt worried. She said his language skills and cognitive abilities are excellent. She'll type up her report but she said she is not recommending any therapy, just another eval at age two to make sure he isnt getting behind in any areas.
Awesome, Erin!!!!!
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 5:59:45 PM
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I would say at least 80% of the hitting is done in a playful way, not in anger.
The "funny" thing is sometimes when he's mad he hits himself on the legs. 
We demonstrate gentle touching to him as well. And we do the look, Jeanie LOL
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 6:46:23 PM
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Tell me about it. All of mine are "lively". 
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 6:54:54 PM
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Erin that is terrific! How old is Isaac now? We have noticed that Josh will also pick up behaviors from other kids that need to be worked back out. Particularly after playing with my nephew. But he was over on Sat. and was very good so we are not having too much trouble with Josh repeating some of the less desirable behaviors this time around. Not that Josh is incapable of coming up with stuff on his own!
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 8:14:31 PM
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Krislynx
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Complacent? Children come with that feature? That must explain all of those quiet children I see out in public looking at my rambunctious little guy like he has 2 heads! Seriously, a ridiculous number of kids don't seem to know what to do with Josh, but I don't think he is that far out. Poor kid goes around virtually begging them to play with him and most of them just look at him or run to their moms. We are still working on the social graces of course but generally he is a nice, personable kid who wants to play with somebody. And I am talking about kids at play groups or by the train table in the library, not just random people in stores. Though I do have to remind him that the big kids are there to read or work, not to play. And yes, I do explain that the other little boys and girls might want to play with something/someone else or get used to the area. That is hard for him to understand though.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 9:16:10 PM
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I have a sassy child. Life is not easy with a sassy child, let me tell ya. 
Beth was doing that little trick today where she holds her breath till she turns purple... all because a mean mommy wouldn't let her eat rocks. Surely a child not yet 10 months can't be that dramatic? She's developing quite a personality, loves to play games, be a part of the action. She's really taking it all in, and little lady is ready to jump into the world, head first I think.
I was pushing it today with a trip to the grocery store. I knew it would be a little dicey. One thing that bought me a little time was having Nathan hold Beth's tupperware container of cheerios while they were sitting in the cart. Beth likes to eat (boy howdy!) and Nathan likes being giving a "responsibility". I still had grumpy kids at check out, but it wasn't to bad.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 9:38:29 PM
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Krislynx
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They really seem to like responsibility at this age. Josh and I had a good trip to the store today. I didn't have too many things to buy so even though I had a cart I let him walk. He "pushes" from the side and helps load it. I had one glass bottle that I did myself and every item he got after that he would hold and say "this not glass, I put it in cart".
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/2/2009 9:43:06 PM
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Sideways
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Nathan loves helping me with laundry so much I barely have time to fold a shirt before he grabs it to put it away. If he's getting cranky, asking him to help me do something often heads off a bad mood.
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/3/2009 1:40:37 PM
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manda59
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Who or what does he bite, Erin?
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RE: Baby Chat 6! - 11/3/2009 1:44:06 PM
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Krislynx
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Josh will often sort the socks by person. Sometimes he'll do the underwear as well. One day he had a pile of Mark's and a pile of mine and asked about his so I explained that when he uses the potty he can have big boy underwear just like daddy's or with characters like Thomas. He decided not to wait and put a couple of diapers into a stack for himself. He didn't say anything, just brought them over and put them next to the undies. That was a while ago, I think now I'd ask him if he needed to be changed or try the potty seat if he did that.
I can't decide if we are coming or going with the potty idea. The other day he came over to me all upset that he was poopy and wanted to be changed. I changed him and he was just wet so I asked if he needed to go and he said "not in bathroom". Sure enough 5 minutes later there was a poopy diaper. I guess at this point the best thing to do is encourage without being too pushy. It seems like he is understanding the feelings but isn't quite ready to commit to the potty.
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