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Does God care who we marry? - 3/21/2009 5:20:57 PM
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Isaiah331516
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More than ever, over the past year I have come to know God and see Him work in my life, change my life, and change my heart. He has broken many stronglholds in my life and even seperated me from many people. Now I am learning what it means to seek Him first and that He truly is to be our first love.
Just wanted to give you some background info.
Okay, about a year ago something huge happened in my life - I was lost and spiritually vacant eventhough I went to church every Sunday and sang in the church choir. I was so lost and eventually depressed....familial issues/spiritual warfare that I turned away form the man God sent to be my husband. We knew each other well and he told me he had a word from God. I think I knew...somethings happened in my family (not with him) and I basically fell into a hole-and he was always there to help and show me love. I became increasingly harder to love; one of the saddest things is that I kept trying to get approval from everyone in my family-and they didn't know God.
During this time, this man became faced with some temptations- a 'friend' offered him a side job at a bar. My friend had been saved from alcohol by Christ. Not too long after starting work at the bar, he started drinking occasionally. He started withdrawing from church and the church people. Anyhow, I seperated from him-I was not mad at him, I just felt spiritually dead.
This took me down a path toward God that I didn't even know existed.
I had been praying to God , but felt like nothing was getting through. Then a scripture came up over and over. It showed me I had to fogive-my earthly father, but I didn't know how. I started asking God to help me forgive-night after night. Eventually, He did. He took it all away. IT was amazing, and for the first time ever, I felt God's love :-)!!! Soon after, God showed me that my friend was right-I was to marry him.
This had only been a month or so after I said no to him, but in that short while his life took a drastic turn. He had found a woman a couple weeks later. Not to be to crude, but they had a very active relationship. He and I still talked, and he said that he decided not to believe God anymore and that he was happy getting what he wanted.
Not a couple days later-he called drunk to tell me he was engaged-he was drunking when they got engaged. Of course, I was floored. I know what God said to me was true-it confirmed what He had said to my friend. How could this be?
A little time-not much-went by and my friend told me that he knew he wasn't supposed to marry her. He said that God told him he was not to marry her.
This is a really long story. So I will cut out a lot.
He knew he wasn't supposed to marry her, but he still wanted to do things (btw-I wouldn't do those things).
I kept in contact with him, but kind of distant-I was walking in a new life with God-I felt like I had new shoes on... Anyhow, I gave him some messages on CD and the NT on CD. I encouraged him always to turn back to God and read His word. He did decided to go to a church, and I was kind of happy. Not really because the church he chose to go to was frought with wrong teachings. can go into if you have questions
Well, the church pastor moved them in together about a month after he started going and then decided to marry them a month or so later.
Some things that have come up lately regarding marriage are
A friend of mine said God blesses all marriages.
Really, then what if you get married more than once (not bc of death or fornication)-does He bless all of those?
My brother said you are not absolved of a marriage unless someone dies.
Well, then is my friend's new wife still married to her ex-husband, and why would his-my brother's- pastor marry someone (not a widow) a second time to a new husband?
IT would seem that if God blesses all marriages, then it doesn't matter whom we marry cuz He'll bless any marriage.
WHen God specificaaly tells us to marry soneone or not to marry someone -I say that matters. I am sure God does to, but some people say, oh well, I guess God changed His mind. !!!
I guess I call it pretty absurd to think that God changes His mind bc we decide to go against what He tells us and then that somehow forces Him to concede and bless our out-of God's-will decision.
I know that God has turned this for my good-I know Him better than ever. I don't think I really knew Him at all before. Some of the traits I have learned about Him is that He is Holy, Righteous, Loving, Faithful, Powerful, Almighty. Because I now know this about Him, I also believe everything He says and everything He has said.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/22/2009 12:07:12 PM
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Isaiah331516
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Thanks for your response :-)
It is out of my hands.
It matters to me not only bc it has taught me about faith and obedience, spiritual warfare, and believing God's word, but it also matters bc the man God spoke to to marry me and then confirmed in my heart to marry, married another.
One day as I was driving, I was thinking about how non-busy my life was. I had no Saturday plans, most of my friends were married or going out with their sig other. A couple of people had mentioned setting me up with friends of theirs. I said no, but then in my boredom and prob loneliness, i started talking to God syaing, "Why not?" They are nice; this wouldn't be a date-just dinner; my friends think they are cool or funny; they have good jobs...eventhough in my heart I knew all of that was hulabaloo. God spoke to me right then and said that He had chosen my husband not because he was funny or popular but for His glory.
That really struck me. I knew whom I was to marry-I was just discouraged bc of the circumstances. Then, God told me why I was to marry him. It may seem commonplace to some, but to me it dug deep into my spirit. This marriage was not to be for us; it was/is to be for our Father's glory. Wow!
This matters to me bc I want to be in God's will, and when God tells me I something He has chosen for me is for His glory, I want to do that.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/22/2009 1:55:21 PM
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Welcome, Isaiah!
When God made Eve for Adam, He said she was a "suitable helper." That tells me she was a good fit and she could help Adam with the garden. Suitable means a good match, and I'm guessing there could be more than one person who's a good match with anyone else. God doesn't come right out and tell us.
What God does tells us is to keep sex inside marriage, and He absolutely condemns sex before marriage (fornication) or outside the marriage (adultery). This is all called sexual immorality, and the Bible says people who live like this don't go to heaven (Galatians 5:19-21).
That pastor who had two unmarried people move in together needs to be stripped of his authority - he was dead wrong, and leading others into sin.
I'm glad you want to be in God's will; me, too. Keep reading your Bible every day and it will transform your life, little by little, as you obey it. Lots of fun history in there, too. 
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/23/2009 12:43:45 AM
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Thanks for your response :-)
It is out of my hands.
It matters to me not only bc it has taught me about faith and obedience, spiritual warfare, and believing God's word, but it also matters bc the man God spoke to to marry me and then confirmed in my heart to marry, married another.
One day as I was driving, I was thinking about how non-busy my life was. I had no Saturday plans, most of my friends were married or going out with their sig other. A couple of people had mentioned setting me up with friends of theirs. I said no, but then in my boredom and prob loneliness, i started talking to God syaing, "Why not?" They are nice; this wouldn't be a date-just dinner; my friends think they are cool or funny; they have good jobs...eventhough in my heart I knew all of that was hulabaloo. God spoke to me right then and said that He had chosen my husband not because he was funny or popular but for His glory.
That really struck me. I knew whom I was to marry-I was just discouraged bc of the circumstances. Then, God told me why I was to marry him. It may seem commonplace to some, but to me it dug deep into my spirit. This marriage was not to be for us; it was/is to be for our Father's glory. Wow!
This matters to me bc I want to be in God's will, and when God tells me I something He has chosen for me is for His glory, I want to do that.
maybe it wasnt God who told you that you were to marry this man. maybe it was you who wanted to hear that.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/23/2009 12:04:06 PM
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The reason I know that isn't the case is that when I had prayed to God and didn't hear anything...I said no to him. I said no bc I wasn't sure that was what God wanted.
I really cared about what God wanted. It mattered that much to me. I wanted to know what God thought, but wasn't able to hear from him until I let some other things go. I mentioned earlier that I had to forgive my earthly father. That was huge. I also had to let go or something/one else from a long time ago. God showed that to me and I did it.
After I forgave my father with God's help and let got of that other person/idea...the lift was amazing. God had been asking me to do that for a while... God really began to work on me once those things occured.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/23/2009 12:13:12 PM
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That is good isaiah, but this person is now married to someone else and therefore isnt yours to even consider marrying. I am sure that God has someone very special for you but it isnt this person.
from what you said I think that is probably a very good thing.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/23/2009 3:41:36 PM
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You know, I have asked God many times in different ways..."What now?"
"Did I get this wrong?" I have taken breaks...not thinking about it-just reading God's word-spending time with the ladies in the church-getting my own deliverance. Still, over and over and over again I would hear messages about believing what God has said-not giving up-waiting on God-God's promise to Abraham. Several times...I have been at that point saying this is too hard to believe-it would be a lot easier to just throw my hands up in the air. One night I was praying and kind of talking to God about giving up and these words were spoken to me, "If you can just believe."
I know it sounds so far fetched bc he married another. Believe me, I know!
Some things God has been teaching me this year are about faith. I half way chuckle about it thinking of how I used to have "faith," but I had no idea what that was. I remember sitting in my old church not too long before I got the courage to leave...thinking how am I supposed to get this faith..when do I have faith...what do I have faith in...how come it looks like 'you' don't have faith? I didn't really know God; I think that is the first reason I didn't know how to have faith.
So, recently in prayer-I find myself praying all the time-just talking with God about all kinds of things. Anyway, during one of these times-a question came over me, "What kind of faith are you going to have?" That is what I have been talking to God about now for a while.
Am I going to believe what He says or not?
side note: I am not doing anything about this but praying. I know God worked on me to pray for his wife. I wasn't sure for what, so I prayed for salvation, a closer walk with God, for God to take care of her. I am still talking to God about this.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/23/2009 5:21:03 PM
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You know, I have asked God many times in different ways..."What now?"
"Did I get this wrong?" I have taken breaks...not thinking about it-just reading God's word-spending time with the ladies in the church-getting my own deliverance. Still, over and over and over again I would hear messages about believing what God has said-not giving up-waiting on God-God's promise to Abraham. Several times...I have been at that point saying this is too hard to believe-it would be a lot easier to just throw my hands up in the air. One night I was praying and kind of talking to God about giving up and these words were spoken to me, "If you can just believe."
I know it sounds so far fetched bc he married another. Believe me, I know!
Some things God has been teaching me this year are about faith. I half way chuckle about it thinking of how I used to have "faith," but I had no idea what that was. I remember sitting in my old church not too long before I got the courage to leave...thinking how am I supposed to get this faith..when do I have faith...what do I have faith in...how come it looks like 'you' don't have faith? I didn't really know God; I think that is the first reason I didn't know how to have faith.
So, recently in prayer-I find myself praying all the time-just talking with God about all kinds of things. Anyway, during one of these times-a question came over me, "What kind of faith are you going to have?" That is what I have been talking to God about now for a while.
Am I going to believe what He says or not?
side note: I am not doing anything about this but praying. I know God worked on me to pray for his wife. I wasn't sure for what, so I prayed for salvation, a closer walk with God, for God to take care of her. I am still talking to God about this.
It would seem strange that God would be telling you that someone who is married to another will be your husband. Please dont pray for this to happen becuase you are then praying for the breakup of a marriage which is against Gods will. This man has made a covenant and a vow to another and unless she later on is unfaithful he wont be allowed Biblically to divorce her anyway.
I would leave it and keep on with your relationship with God and look ahead to the future. He is no longer part of your life, he is committed to another.he has made his choice and he has to be faithful to her.
I have heard of women going to pastors who are marrried and telling them that God had told them that they are to be their wives. They are clearly deluded and not hearing from God.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/24/2009 10:16:36 AM
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While I agree with herestoresmysoul that it would seem strange that God would be telling you that someone who is married to another will be your husband, that is not the same thing as God telling you to seek a married man. (Your case is very different from women going to pastors who are married. That example does not apply here.)
I have seen something similar happen. A man felt strongly that God had led him to woman A. She liked him but thought he was too homely. He went and became engaged to another and she went and had a baby with someone else. Long twisting horrible seven years go by but God did eventually bring them back together. They have celebrated a tenth anniversary and their only regret is that it could have been their 17th if they had listened to God even when what He told them did not seem to make sense.
Two things you said cause me to disagree with the other poster. One is that there was an original time when this man he told you that he had a word from God. We don't have any way to know if that was real or not, but it is an interesting point. If it is a true word, then you won't have to do anything to make it happen except stay out of God's way. You got in His way once when you "kept trying to get approval from everyone in my (your) family" instead of seeking approval form God.
The second thing is that you said, "God told me why I was to marry him … it was/is to be for our Father's glory." In 99 cases out of 100, (metaphorically, not a real statistic, of course) that would sound like delusional religious talk. But, if you heard from God, then you heard from God; and there is nothing in that statement that contradicts God's character.
Since the man is currently married, your only real choice is to do nothing to try to make it happen, that will have to be all God. Meanwhile, continue to focus on your relationship with God because that will be the best preparation for any relationship with any other person on any level. I don't think you should even pray for him because prayer creates emotional connections. Except that I would praise the Lord a lot for working out things in your life. If God said you will marry, then your praise for His working out your life will count as prayer enough. A second reason that I say don't even pray for him as long as he is married to another is that it is way too easy to pray amiss, and that could bind things up again. Just turn everything that has to do with this guy over to God.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/28/2009 3:50:56 PM
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Yes, of the many things God is teaching me, one is to trust in Him. I've been learning more and more that this means handing SO much to Him :-). I actually have peace in this although sometimes it seems hard. I am reminded that God is sovereign, God is truth. God knows what has happened and what is happening. This has been so huge. I remember asking God about faith early last year...wow! has He been showing me or what! Btw, God has shown me about faith in many many other areas of my life. God is so so amazing :-) I love Him!
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/28/2009 5:20:28 PM
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I suppose that I am just trying to put myself in the shoes of this mans wife. he is promised to her she is promised to Him.She is HIS wife and he is HER husband, He isnt available to be promised to anyone.
I also cant see why it is different from any other person going up to another and telling them that God said they were to be married to them one day.They have a covenant together and it is supposed to be for life. If I knew that someone else thought that God had told her that my husband was to be her husband, I would be very hurt and distressed, and would seriously doubt that God had said any such thing.
I honestly doubt very much that God would tell ANYONE that someone who is married to another woman was going to be their husband unless they were maybe already almost divorced when they met.
God is all for marriages and wouldnt promise a married man to another, that just isnt His way.Even if this man did get divorced, unless his wife was unfaithful he wouldnt be Biblically allowed to remarry anyway as far as my understanding fo the Bible shows.
I am not unsympathetic. I am married for the second time and my husbands wife divorced him after she had an affair, and my husband too committed serious sexual immorality, so I am not aginst second marriages but I cant see that God would tell anyone that another womens husband is going to be yours, especially while they are married.
I have heard people who were convinved that God had said something to them or told them to do something when it was clear that just wasnt the case. He never tells people to go againsst his will in the Bible and that is why he wouldnt tell anyone that a married person is to be theirs.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 3/30/2009 4:16:04 PM
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God did not tell me while they were married but before. God told him before they were married.
I am not worried about this - God knows the truth; it is all in His hands.
On another note, people sometimes marry someone they are not supposed to. God is for marriage; God is for us marrying the spouse He has chosen for us. Marriage is not above God; God is above marriage.
Appreciate your thoughts :-)
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 9:58:08 AM
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What do you think about someone marrying someone God told them not to marry? Do you think God wants them to seperate/divorce what does the Bible say about that? I bin looking on the net to address this subject but cant find any answers so I turned to this forum for perspectives.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 12:06:24 PM
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I think you may be placing yourself in a very dangerous place. The enemy will whisper lies in our ears if we don't stay grounded in the scripture. This man is now married and you need to let go. I have a lot of trouble believing God would tell you to wait for a married man. Here are some scriptures to think about...
Malachi 2:13-16 (New International Version)
13 Another thing you do: You flood the LORD's altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, "Why?" It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. [a] So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.
16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Hebrews 13:4 (New International Version)
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
1 Corinthians 7:10-12 (New International Version)
10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
1 Corinthians 7:38-40 (New International Version)
38So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even better.[a]
39A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 40In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
I wanted to point out that part about "anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord". I think sometimes God does bring two people together, but a lot of times, He lets us choose. And He gives us His Word to guide us and help us make the right choice. Consider these scriptures. It is wrong to long for a married man.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 3:14:55 PM
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God did not tell me while they were married but before. God told him before they were married.
I am not worried about this - God knows the truth; it is all in His hands.
On another note, people sometimes marry someone they are not supposed to. God is for marriage; God is for us marrying the spouse He has chosen for us. Marriage is not above God; God is above marriage.
Appreciate your thoughts :-)
I agree with this line, but just because you marry someone you shouldn't DOES NOT void the covenant you made with them AND God. These two people were married, they made the covenant to each other and to God. They are bound. God will not condone this marriage to be separated except for reasons already posted.
Even if God did tell you that you were meant to marry this man, you said it yourself - it was BEFORE he married this other woman. People have free will, and just because God tells you to do something, doesn't mean you will do it (even though you should). You might have been meant to marry him, but events that were decided by you and him caused those plans to be voided.
I think the best thing for you to do would be to hand this over to God (like you claim you have, but it is evident you are still holding on to a part of it) and move on. This man is NOT your husband, if he WAS to get divorced, there would only be 2 reasons to remarry, and if you married if outside of those two reasons - you would (by knowing the history of the relationship) would be in violation of what has been commanded.
God may or may not have someone out there for you. Most likely he does. But I don't believe he intends for this man to be it. You sound extremely emotionally attached, but you also have the intellect to move forward and find the God fearing Christian man that you are dreaming of.
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I reread this over and noticed it seems kind of harsh, but please understand it wasn't meant to be so.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 3:20:34 PM
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The Bible says we should be equally yoked. If it tells us that then I believe we should adhere to it. I really think God cares who we marry for our own sake. Marrying someone who is not a Christian when your a Christian is not going to work out well at all. On the other hand, if someone marrys someone who has no common interests even if they are both Christian, say one is an avid outdoors man and marrys a person who never wants to have anything to do with the great outdoors for instance, it seems that is not the greatest match.
God wants us to be happy and equally yoked because marriage is one of the greatest commitments a person can make! He cares.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 4:00:28 PM
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there would only be 2 reasons to remarry, and if you married if outside of those two reasons - you would (by knowing the history of the relationship) would be in violation of what has been commanded
what are you referencing? how would marrying him be in violation of a commandment?
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 5:10:50 PM
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something that strikes me is how fast Christians will give up on God. how much do you believe what He says? of course, no body has to beleive, and no body has to believe or even often believes what God tells someone else.
i appreciate all of your concern.
still, it would be nice occasionally to find someone who doesn't say "give up on God," or who doesn't pray that i do.
today, a co-worker shared how a friend fought so long with cancer and finally accepted that she would die from it and then she died. i know that while God's will may not be to heal everyone from cancer, i know that He would heal more if they just believe He would.
Jesus said to pray believing, not pray hoping. many of us pray, "if it's God's will, heal this person or...." please, don't pray for me like that, and i won't pray for you like that. i have found that i would rather pray for something i believe as that is what God tells me to do. i won't pray for something if i don't believe it. i think many of us (bc i used to think like this myself) are honestly or have been honestly afraid to pray with BOLD belief bc "what if what i prayed for doesn't happen?" isn't that just what the devil wants-don't pray in case it doesn't happen. the devil has gotten so many Christians to doubt that the power of God often gets ignored or not used.
there is a difference between hope and belief.
hoping something occurs is not always bad, but if you know it is supposed to happen, don't hope it happens-believe it will happen.
practically every day (maybe every day) i realize how i can choose to believe God's word (not just about this) or settle for what the world offers. most often the line is easy to cross as even most Christians accept the world's bread.
i guess most of you are right. i can keep believing something, or i can give up. giving up and 'moving on' just makes so much more sense.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 6:04:01 PM
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I am not entirely sure if it is (it is more my opinion, which I should have stated before). But in current laws (which I understand really don't mean anything) it is kind of like being an accomplice after the fact. You know that remarrying for any other reason would be wrong, but you still do it. It's like promoting sin.
And as to your point of people "giving up on God", this just offends me. No one in these threads has given up on God, nor YOU for that matter. We ask you to have strength, and rely MORE on God. We were just trying to bring it to your attention that obsessing, which is pretty much what you are doing, over this man, is not A) Healthy for you mentally B) A road block for the rest of your life.
Please sit back and reread these posts again, we aren't attacking or giving up. We just want you to see what is really happening and where you are putting yourself.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 6:15:49 PM
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i am not being sarcastic, JHerr.
i am merely pointing out something-not as a condemnation to you or any-just recognizing that this is true.
also, as for the remarriage-
wow, has God really been working on me in teaching me in that area. not too long ago-divorce to me was not horrible but not great either. i could have gone either way in advising friends. most of my family has been divorced which is most likley the reason i had no idea what a Godly family was (also no one who raised us knew God and lived accordingly).
anyhow, i have been studying since reading Matthew last year-something struck me in the words. for some reason, the words never mattered before (i think i know the reason-i didn't really know God). anyhow, i asked some well versed folk and what they said sounded pretty much like the world...so i kept studying and praying-and still do :-).
---you may have read in the divorce and remarriage thread. i am at a crossroads so to speak. reading God's word has impacted me to believe that God does not promote, condone or bless 2nd marriages contrary to most of what people say. it seems that God does not have us to be married to another besides our first except in cases of widowhood, and it seems would not even consider the 2nd marriage as a covenant. you should see what kind of a stir that brings.
or it would seem that He is okay with divorce and is only not okay with seperation-in which case 2nd, 3rd, 4th, marriages are totally cool with Him. this seems to be the more popular belief.
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 6:43:29 PM
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quote:
---you may have read in the divorce and remarriage thread. i am at a crossroads so to speak. reading God's word has impacted me to believe that God does not promote, condone or bless 2nd marriages contrary to most of what people say. it seems that God does not have us to be married to another besides our first except in cases of widowhood, and it seems would not even consider the 2nd marriage as a covenant. you should see what kind of a stir that brings.
or it would seem that He is okay with divorce and is only not okay with seperation-in which case 2nd, 3rd, 4th, marriages are totally cool with Him. this seems to be the more popular belief.
God does not, cannot lie. Nor does he contradict himself.
Deu 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house.
Deu 24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's [wife].
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 6:54:35 PM
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i know. God never lies :-)
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 7:06:16 PM
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Here we find what could be a perfect illustration of exactly what Jesus came against.
Should your friend get a renewed revelation that he was supposed to marry you he IS NOT allowed to do as Jewish husbands had been doing prior to the advent of Jesus.
He is prohibited from simply "putting away" his wife for any reasons other than adultery.
Should they go beyond that to actual divorce then both parties would be free to remarry.
This opens another can of worms of which we have not gotten into on the other thread. It was a good thing because the the topic there is the legality of remarriage.
We already know that Jesus said that the only grounds for "putting away" a spouse is adultery. Despite common misconceptions this is not the same as divorce.
What we have not gotten into is whether or not actual divorce is allowed for grounds other than marital unfaithfulness. 
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My, my, my I FINALLY got it! And my soul says yes! I could not have chosen better myself!
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RE: Does God care who we marry? - 4/16/2009 7:11:05 PM
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i see..also if one is to say that remarriage (in some instances) is adultery, then as Jesus says remarrying (if outside the okayed reasons by God) is commiting adultery. so that would be a marriage God would want divorced as they ARE commiting adultery by even being married.
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