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ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 8:44:54 AM
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savior5683
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Well...I have another issue. Just so everyone knows I am 26...married...with 1 son. I have a 13 year old sister and she lives with my mom. My mom lives with her boyfriend as well. My little sister called me and told me she found sexual pictures of 12-15 year old girls on my moms boyfriends computer. She also found a folder of pictures of just her (my sister) and her friends. She couldn't look any further because the boyfriend was coming up the stairs.
We also know the boyfriend somehow reads my sisters instant message conversations with her friends. We know this cause she found them printed out. Also when her friends come over they notice how strange my moms boyfriend is and ask my sister why he stares at their bodies.
I asked my sister if she was 100% sure that the sexual pictures were of girls at a young age and she said definitely. I am sickened and don't know what to do.
I honestly don't think my mom would care if I told her. She did nothing about my father who tried to have sex with me when I was 14. Do I just sit back and not do anything because I have my own life and I don't live there? I don't know what to do.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 9:22:57 AM
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Szaftoo
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From your other posts, you mom and her boyfriend have issues that are way over your head. You need to protect your little sister even if that means reporting the boyfriend or getting custody of your sister.
Also, where is your biological father in all of this?
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 9:48:26 AM
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raivyne
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Contact the police. Immediately.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 11:27:26 AM
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As mentioned above...this one is above your head and the police should intervene. If I'm not mistaken, you are required by law to inform the authorities when pornography of a minor is involved.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 12:02:52 PM
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This is the kind of thing that Child Protective Services is for. Please call before your sister experiences something worse than what is already going on.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 12:05:06 PM
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Report it, report it, report it.
Can your sister come live with you?
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 5:37:08 PM
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FunBetty
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I would agree with the above posters and to add that if your little sister is confiding in you, then she is probably hoping that you will take some sort of action.
When I was trained as a camp counselor we were told that we were required to report such behavior if it was confided in us. Legally I don't know where you stand as far as being required to report but I would hope that as her older sister you would report it out of her wellbeing. Safety for those you love will always trump not wanting to hurt other's feelings (even if it is your mom). Call Child Protective Services like NOW, before something happens to her.
And by all means tell your little sister to stop inviting friends over for their safety as well.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 7:09:35 PM
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I agree with everyone~ Get Her Out Of There, ASAP!
I know in some states it is also illegal for anyone to have child paraphenalia (photos, emails, etc...) Your younger sister is screaming for help.
DSS will help you financially to care for here when the push comes to shove. Do not wait until she becomes a victim, you yourself know all to well how that is.
Years ago after I left home, I was 19 y/o flew home and took my younger sister aside telling her to protect herself. Only to learn that I was too late!
Do not let that happen to your sister.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 7:10:48 PM
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delete123
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Szaftoo
Also, where is your biological father in all of this?
Szaftoo~ Savior5683's bio father tried to molest her, you must have missed that post.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 8:43:43 PM
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TODAY!
NOW.
Stand up, get keys, get in car and drive.
Walk in, grab the computer and the girl and go.
Talking can wait, phoning can wait. Your sister can't.
GO NOW.
When you get home, make your sister comfortable and once she's in bed check out the laptop and make appropriate calls to police & child protection.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/14/2008 10:56:33 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: pbaribeault
TODAY!
NOW.
Stand up, get keys, get in car and drive.
Walk in, grab the computer and the girl and go.
Talking can wait, phoning can wait. Your sister can't.
GO NOW.
When you get home, make your sister comfortable and once she's in bed check out the laptop and make appropriate calls to police & child protection.
Depending on the situation, taking the computer could be a problem. He could either say that you stole it... or he could use the defense that you put the pictures on the computer. Best to let the police seize the computer to elimate the "reasonable doubt" thing.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/15/2008 1:32:01 AM
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Szaftoo
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quote:
ORIGINAL: delete123
quote:
ORIGINAL: Szaftoo
Also, where is your biological father in all of this?
Szaftoo~ Savior5683's bio father tried to molest her, you must have missed that post.
You are right, I totally missed it and thanks for pointing it out to me.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/15/2008 8:59:28 AM
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Contact child protective services and have them and the police go to the house - what you sister has told you should be enough to get a warrant to get his computer, then you have proof. If your sister told you this, chances are there is more she hasn't told you. Getting her out and safe is the most important thing. If she can live with you, that would be great but if she can't is there another relative that could provide a safe and stable environment?
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/15/2008 9:41:20 PM
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PLEASE do the right thing and call Child Protective Services AND the police RIGHT NOW.
You will regret it more when (not if!!! WHEN!) something happens to your sister and you had every opportunity to prevent it.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/16/2008 10:19:04 AM
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savior5683
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Thanks everyone. And I will definitely take action. I spoke with my sister and she is begging me to not say anything. She said she didn't get to see much and that the pictures were not pornographic. She is creeped out that he even has a picture of a young girl in the first place though. Why do you think she is begging me not to tell?
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/16/2008 10:27:12 AM
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FunBetty
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Thanks everyone. And I will definitely take action. I spoke with my sister and she is begging me to not say anything. She said she didn't get to see much and that the pictures were not pornographic. She is creeped out that he even has a picture of a young girl in the first place though. Why do you think she is begging me not to tell?
She might be scared that something would happen to her if he found out she was tattling on. And childhood pictures do not have to be "pornographic" to be viewed as questionable to the authorities. There is no reason for him to have pictures of girls that do not belong to him, and police will agree with that.
I still say call CPS and police asap. Your sister is in a time bomb so there is no telling when something would happen. She's creeped out and needs to be in a safe environment.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/16/2008 10:46:46 AM
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raivyne
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quote:
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Thanks everyone. And I will definitely take action. I spoke with my sister and she is begging me to not say anything. She said she didn't get to see much and that the pictures were not pornographic. She is creeped out that he even has a picture of a young girl in the first place though. Why do you think she is begging me not to tell?
She originally told you they were "sexual" pictures of little girls. Just because the little girls aren't nekkid doesn't mean he's not a sicko. A lot of times kids in this situation dont' want the questionable adults mad at them... or her mom for that matter.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/16/2008 6:16:58 PM
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delete123
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Most victims to an extent defend their perps. So maybe she is struggling with conflict
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/16/2008 7:55:52 PM
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buckifn
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BELIEVE your sister call childrens services and take your sister somewhere safe immediately.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/17/2008 4:15:10 PM
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Kellgaste
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On Another Note......
I would leave the laptop there for the reason PH gave (
She's a wise one).
Now..I would take a thumb drive over (Isn't USB grand), pop that bad boy in, Copy paste, while your Sis is packing her stuff.
Deadbolt the Front door and back, Copy ALL data applicable (you can do this blind by just selecting the higher folder (ie My Pictures <me thinks he isn't a sharp one>) dragging it to the Thumb Drive (Usually the F: Drive or E: drive)
Once its done and your Sis has her essentials (Socks, Underwear, Shirts and a few pants) <Everything else can be gleaned from a trip to Wal-Mart>
Pop the Thumb Drive out and Roll out the back.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/17/2008 5:20:11 PM
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CALL THE POLICE NOW!!!
Your mother didn't protect you from a sexual predator and likely won't protect your sister either. Your sister is scared and likely fears the break up of her home. A breakup is better than a rape. Call the police. Your sister's sexuality and purity is at risk, and a molestation now would likely ruin her chances of a well-adjusted marriage later. Call the police now.
I'm sorry you have a mother who picks guys like this. It really stinks. Thank you for being a pivot person who lives her life better. I'm one, too. It's hard when parents don't understand it, but it's something we have to do to make our families better and protect the next generation. Go call the police and report your suspicions and what your sister said. She needs to get out of that house... no, HE needs to be taken out of that house immediately, and your mom isn't likely to do the right thing. Step up to the plate and get the police involved. Your mom will resent it, and that's too bad because she wasn't mother enough to protect the first daughter, either. Go call the police and get the ball rolling.
God bless you, dear one. I'm praying for you for courage and strength, for your sister's protection and for your mom to slap herself in the forehead and say, "What a fool I've been! Guy, get out of my house! Daughter, I will protect you!" Any two would be great. (((Hugs)))
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/20/2008 8:59:08 AM
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You sister is afraid of the unknown or she is afraid that she will be put in the middle but either way she is afraid. She obviously feels she can trust you. At least she has someone, so many in this situation do not.
Will continue to pray for all of your protection in this.
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/25/2008 11:55:52 AM
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The sister may be afraid that if she rats out the current live-in that her mom will be mad at her and in the end may be blamed for her mom's relationship ending. Since the mom seems to have a tendency to choose less than stand up guys, she may need a wake up call.
Protect this child! Better to make the mom and bf angry than to allow potential abuse to go on. If this low-life is looking at child porn and with a similar age child in the house.... what do you think will happen next? Sick fantasies turn to reality.
I hope she can live with you!
I'll be praying for you all!!!!
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RE: ANOTHER ISSUE FROM SAVIOR5683! - 10/31/2008 10:34:50 PM
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Report it and call the police!
My father did the same and my mother had told him to never to it again, but it never stopped him, no warning will help. It is possible that other things have already happened but she is to embarrassed to say anything.
and to answer your question, she probably does not want you to tell anyone else, or to intervene because she probably thinks that is will make people upset with her, or that he will be upset, and in some way she might want to protect him.
I hope that she was mistaken about the pictures on the computer, but to be completely honest for her sanity you need to get her out of there as soon as possible.
I have dealt with this all and it is somthing I wish no one ever had to go through. I will keep you and your family in my prayers!!! ((((Savior5683)))
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