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alp.jeffrey -> My Man of God pulling away from God (10/5/2008 2:23:09 PM)

Hi. I'm new. But I need prayer so I thought I'd try here :) If I may explain...

I married my man of God 3 1/2 years ago. One of the reasons I fell in love with him was because he was so in love with God. He was one of the reasons I wanted to be a better person. But he took a job right before we got married that has him working the weekend shift so he no longer attends church on Sundays. It wasn't that bad at first. He would still go on Wednesday and that seemed to still feed him, ya know. But, he eventually stopped going all together and I even moved churches. This new one that I am attending I know he would love it if he could only be there. They don't offer anything on Sunday nights which he could go to. We tried Wednesday nights but there wasn't anything for him. There's one men's class. He's 24. He was put in there with 70 yr old men. He doesn't have anything in common so he pretty much has written that off. He's doubting the existence of God, the Bible, everything to do with church. It really has me in a panic. I don't know what else to do but pray. I've been doing that already. I've talked to him but he knows so much more than I do about the Bible and God b/c I'm new to God's kingdom. I can't "argue" points with him b/c I don't know enough yet. It's really pulling us apart. I want children but I don't want to involve them in this. I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice and definately prayer would be helpful and very much appreciated. Thank you.



HappilyMarried -> RE: My Man of God pulling away from God (10/5/2008 4:39:42 PM)

I'm sorry you're going through this. I would talk to a pastor about it. Have you looked at other churches with small groups? I know some have small groups that meet at all different times during the week. I'll be praying for you.



delete123 -> RE: My Man of God pulling away from God (10/5/2008 6:51:30 PM)

Can you invite a few friends over on a good night for your husband and have a small bible study? Have you looked for another church that has a Sunday night service or Wednesday night service that would be beneficial for him? (This doesn't mean you have to leave your Sunday morning worship church.)
Just some ideas to run through



keepingfaith -> RE: My Man of God pulling away from God (10/5/2008 7:13:18 PM)

If neither of you has a living ex-spouse, you are in a lifelong covenant and you are definitely right where God wants you to be... just dig into the Word and pray for your husband. Jesus is your Teacher and if you ask for wisdom He will give it to you. I recommend a life application Bible and reading it daily.

1Cor7:10-11
"To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

1Cor7:12-14
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy."

1 Peter 3:1-4
"Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."



alp.jeffrey -> RE: My Man of God pulling away from God (10/6/2008 7:54:35 AM)

Thanks for the replies. I definately need to talk to my pastor about it. Finding time to do that is so hard. I'm sure many of you know that! :) But this is important and I have to do it.

No, I haven't thought about finding another church that have smaller groups that meet at other times. I don't want to leave where I'm attending because I'm truly being fed by God there. But I do see from another reply where we could just go somewhere else on Sunday nights so he can have somewhere to worship. That's a good idea. It's gonna be hard because the type of church I go to now is the only one of it's type in my area right now. I live in a small town where most churches are southern baptist, old time singing, very traditional type places. Not that there is ANYTHING wrong with that. But we tried that and it didn't work for us. My church now is very contemporary. So, I pray that God can reveal a place like that if it's His will for us to go somewhere else on Sunday nights for my husband.

We don't have very many friends either so the bible study with friends is kinda out of the question. Because of his work schedule, we couldn't really go out or hang out with our friends for the longest time so they kind of left us. Our only friends really have 4 daughters ages 6 to 2 and they can't really just "hang out." lol However, they have been praying for my husband for the past year so that's probably the best kind of friends you can have.

Neither of us have ex spouses. We were meant for each other. I'm not where God wants me to be. But I'm working on that daily. Starting today. I realized that yesterday during our message at church. How can I expect God to do anything really big for me like bringing my husband back when I'm not doing anything hardly at all for him or spending any time at all with him? So that changes today! Excellent scripture, btw. "...If any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives" that's kind of what he did with me when we first were together. His actions spoke louder than words and I was in awe with his relationship with God. It made me want to be better. So maybe if I get myself back where I need to be he'll see that in me like I saw it in him so many years ago.

Most importantly, I'm gonna pray about it. God knows what he's doing.



Oldwing -> RE: My Man of God pulling away from God (10/6/2008 10:27:10 AM)

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alp.jeffrey


I don't have anything to add because you have already received some excellent advice. Seek your pastor for further wisdom. Seek His Word for enlightenment.

I pray that your husband finds himself coming back to the Lord out of desire and that your marriage remains blessed. In Jesus name. Amen



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