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CandaceClaywell -> When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 3:34:04 AM)
HeY! First i want to start off telling everyone who i am i am candace i am 19 years old and i live in fl and was born in england and raised in japan. i moved here to america when i was 15... and my my my life has changed so much I use to get on crosswalk.com a long time ago maybe when i was around 12.my life has changed so much since i was a girl. now that i am becaming a women and looking back its so crazy to see how i turned out i have turned out the way i never thought i would have turned out i was homeschooled my hole life. but once i moved here to america i stoped doing my work. so i am now 19 and have nothing at all going for me. I have been through so much .... i dont even know where to start on my crazy life. but i am glad for what i went throw because i am so much stronger and wiser. but some days i wonder why my life is what it is. i know i have a good heart and i have never stoped loving god of life even in my hardest times.... so i ask god every day when he will show my why he kept me alive and i want things to start getting so much better in my life but honestly i have NO idea at all what i should do. i am so stuck and lost i feel like i have nothing at all going for me in life right now... what should i do?

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 3:35:58 AM)
oops i ment or =/ i didnt proof read it i am to lazy =/ lol

Kellgaste -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 2:55:26 PM)
Hello my Lady, Let me ask you a few questions to see the answer before I respond. 1) Are you reading your Bible? 2) Are you Praying Everyday/Spending time with the Lord? 3) have you set Short term goals (5 Years Out)? 4) Have you set long term goals (10 Years Out)? <Smile> balls in your court. God Bless!!!

agapetos -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 7:19:07 PM)
quote: i feel like i have nothing at all going for me in life right now... what should i do? You have God going for you, remember that! It's unclear exactly what you mean by saying you don't feel that you have anything going for you. In what respect? You say that you were homeschooled but you stopped working. Does that mean you didn't complete high school (or the equivilant as you were home schooled)? Or that you just didn't bother pursuing your education after completing high school? Would you think about going back, perhaps getting your GED? What would you like to do with your life? College? Career? Other (including marriage and children)? What do you need to achieve this? Perhaps working your way through college or speaking with your parents about things you'd like to do and what support they'd be able to give you, even if it's simply a roof over your head. Your parents may have been hurt by you 'stopping working' and you may need to prove to them that you are determined to go through with your decisions ~ again, this is something you must speak to them about.

MWD -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 7:49:53 PM)
Life will get better for you when you decide what you love doing more than anything else, and then go start doing it, or at least start doing the things that will get you to that point in a few years. You must have some skills, and maybe even an exceptional one out of the bunch. Putting your best skill(s) to use to "add value" to something or someone ought to make you happy. Whenever you have a good day, at the end of it, sit down and analyze what made you happy, and latch on. Write it down if you have to. These are important cues regarding where you ought to direct your energy. It's far more important to analyze what makes you happy than it is to analyze what makes you sad/depressed. At least in my opinion. When you are doing what you love, success will hunt you down, and I mean hunt you down like a wolf hunts a rabbit. (You will not be able to escape it.) If that idea scares you, or repulses you, then that's another matter.

deermousie -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/25/2008 10:02:55 PM)
Welcome, CandaceClaywell! Ohio gozaimasu! There's lots of areas you can start working on that will really help you. Spiritual: Kellgaste gave you very good advice: be in your Bible every day and pray daily (talk to God). Find a good church if you don't have one, and plug yourself in. One with a singles group might bring you some fellowship and friends. Education: Go to the library and ask where you can get help to take the GED. There are classes for this (they're free here; maybe in FL, too) and books, and you can start catching up on any education you may have missed. With a GED passed, you can go to a community college, which are often good and very cheap. Social: You seem to be feeling very alone with no purpose. Being multicultural may make you feel isolated more. Joining a church will help, as people there will probably take to a stranger in faster and give you social contacts. Want to feel important to someone fast? Volunteer at a soup kitchen or Christian orphanage or something like that. My daughter and I started helping out at a rescue mission's kitchen, and I was surprised how much fun it was. We met all kinds of people, and they were grateful we were there. Something like this can give you a purpose, helping others who are in worse shape than you. Libraries often need volunteers, too, and I've never met a librarian I didn't like. [:)] You are young and it's not too late to get started. Like Kellgaste said, get some goals and start working on them. You can go to the YMCA (it's in the phone book) as they often have classes that are fun to take; I don't know what they charge so check. Asking who you are is a good idea. You'll find a lot of those answers in the Bible; maybe join a Bible study somewhere? You sound like a sweet girl. I am praying for you (I would have even if you didn't sound sweet!), that God will open doors for you and show you who you are (read Isaiah 43 tonight and see what God thinks about you). God bless you, dear one! *Yes, I was in Tokyo (Ikebukaro) for a summer a long time ago; I didn't learn much of the language, mostly because everyone wanted to practice their English. [:D] I loved it there.

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:26:15 PM)
yeah i pray 24/7 and read when i can

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:32:13 PM)
I moved out of my parents home when i was 15. the kicked me out and tried to put my up for adoption. so i was stressed and never could get good grades. [/quote] It's unclear exactly what you mean by saying you don't feel that you have anything going for you. In what respect? so i guess what i mean is i feel like i have suffered enough in my life time and i worked my butt of for what i have and i feel like god has forgotten me... but i know about that hole timing thing and blah. so i guess its gods timing

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:35:18 PM)
Oh and to reply to some of the stuff. i found a school a couple nights ago. and i can get my hs diplom from home. i dont want my ged. and after i get my diplom i am going to hair school and make up school. so i am praying everything will work out plz pray for me too muah

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:38:55 PM)
quote: Life will get better for you when you decide what you love doing more than anything else, and then go start doing it, or at least start doing the things that will get you to that point in a few years. You must have some skills, and maybe even an exceptional one out of the bunch. Putting your best skill(s) to use to "add value" to something or someone ought to make you happy. Whenever you have a good day, at the end of it, sit down and analyze what made you happy, and latch on. Write it down if you have to. These are important cues regarding where you ought to direct your energy. It's far more important to analyze what makes you happy than it is to analyze what makes you sad/depressed. At least in my opinion. When you are doing what you love, success will hunt you down, and I mean hunt you down like a wolf hunts a rabbit. (You will not be able to escape it.) If that idea scares you, or repulses you, then that's another matter. _____________________________ "The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he doesn't exist." I really like what u have to say and thanks so much i am actually get things done for once in my life and i am taking all what u guys said to heart muah thanks

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:42:46 PM)
quote: Hello my Lady, Let me ask you a few questions to see the answer before I respond. 1) Are you reading your Bible? 2) Are you Praying Everyday/Spending time with the Lord? 3) have you set Short term goals (5 Years Out)? 4) Have you set long term goals (10 Years Out)? <Smile> balls in your court. God Bless!!! 1.yes 2.24/7 3.yeah i want to open my own hair salon. 4.yeah i want to be married with kids and have my salon running well.

agapetos -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 1:45:40 PM)
quote: so i guess what i mean is i feel like i have suffered enough in my life time and i worked my butt of for what i have No matter how much we have suffered, the chances are that there is someone who's suffered far more than we have. There are few people in life who go through it free of pain. I am so sorry for what you have experienced. While your experiences are unique to you, you are not alone in your pain. Often it is only through hindsight that we can see the positives that have come from the pain we've experienced. You sound as though you have taken some steps towards sorting your education and training out and that's great. Are you in a church right now? If not, think about going, they will give you support and love.

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 2:07:37 PM)
quote: No matter how much we have suffered, the chances are that there is someone who's suffered far more than we have. There are few people in life who go through it free of pain. I am so sorry for what you have experienced. While your experiences are unique to you, you are not alone in your pain. Often it is only through hindsight that we can see the positives that have come from the pain we've experienced. You sound as though you have taken some steps towards sorting your education and training out and that's great. muah thanks hun yeah i got to a home church with some really good friends of mine. I am not into relgion or man made opions so i dont feel like going to a big buliding is going to ever work for me. so i have decide to follow GOD and no one or nothing else. but yeah and thank GOD. I am sad to those that have suffered worse then I. and thank GOD I wasnt the one with the worst life. But hey... I know why GOD gave my this life. he made me strong so i can talk to the hardest core ppl in my life and not judge them. and help them. and he has sofened my heart to see throw others eyes. and love ppl no matter what but anyways i am kinda starting to go off topic but thanks everyone for ur replies i read them all muah Are you in a church right now? If not, think about going, they will give you support and love.

getintomotion -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 2:13:27 PM)
Things always get better. Hang in there!

catlady11 -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 2:32:10 PM)
Hi Candance. Sorry you are having such a difficult time. From reading your posts on the "Stopping Sexual Sin" thread, I think your life will get better when you have a better understanding of God's word. God does care when we sin. Yes, He will always love us and forgive us when we repent but it just doesn't seem that you are looking at sin the way God does. It not about people's opinions but what the word of God says. God bless.

CandaceClaywell -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 2:44:02 PM)
um k

deermousie -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/26/2008 5:24:24 PM)
I think you are a successful young lady who is on her way in life after a really rough beginning. Good for you for grabbing God's hand and not letting go. I am confident you will finish well, and God will make it happen. [:)] God bless you, dear one! I am praying for you today.

misty35 -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/28/2008 1:21:56 PM)
Hi Candace, I just want to say, that what you are experiencing, Im sure so many of us have as well. Just dont beat yourself up and dont dwell on it, because its these times in our lives, that we feel that maybe nothing is going on, that maybe thats when the most is going on, and we just dont see it yet. Take this time to read the Word of God, pray and talk to Him daily, start your day out with Him, and during this time, ask Him to reveal to you His Perfect Will for your life. Right now, I have had some things go on in my life, things I wasnt expecting, but I know there is purpose for all of it, because Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior, and He makes no mistakes. So you hang in there, meditate on His Word, and TRUST Him :) You are in my prayers :) Your friend, Misty

Kellgaste -> RE: When will life get better for me? (9/29/2008 9:20:22 AM)
Hello my Lady, You have recieved some very wise cousel <smile>. With your answers let me refine it a bit <smile>. - Are you spending at least 15 min a day with the Lord, in his Word? - With your objective of owning your own salon (Always thought a Sweet name for a Salon/Barber would be "The Butcher Shop" <hehehe>) is fantastic, what courses in college are you taking to help reach that goal? - Having a family and your business in 10 years or so is a very good goal, are you praying the Lord will work his will in his timing and are you preparing yourself to recieve those blessings? Well my Lady, I would recommend/suggest you knock out your GED, as even though it doesn't seem important it will show on a Resume (Business/Career/Work) that you are a finisher and goal driven. Some univeristies/Colleges still require a Diploma/GED to gain enterance (Accredited). Also, if you are shooting to start your own business i would highly recommend some Marketing, Business Management, Computer Databases, type course work to include in your degree program as well as learning another language <smile>. <clears throat> yes, well that is probably more info then you wanted but I was in a groove there, hehe. Please step back, evaluate your goals and write yourself a map/checklist to help provide a guide to achieving your goals. NEVER stop Reading the Lords Word and praying, they are your greatest Defense, Offense and Councel! Take Care my Lady and God Bless you in your Grand Adventure!!!!!!!

SamsonUSA -> RE: When will life get better for me? (10/6/2008 12:47:45 AM)
Things will get better for you Candie. Hang in there girl, the Lord sees your pain and will answer your prayers.

BeautifulFemale -> RE: When will life get better for me? (10/6/2008 1:09:51 AM)
Hugs to you, Candace and you know...it brings tears to my eyes when I write this. I remember feeling just like you. I too was/am a third culture kid. Lived everywhere, brought up everywhere and home, well...that's anywhere I have a bed. You probably don't feel that home is America, right? If so, I know how messy it feels. I used to wish I had a base and friends who were my friends from 1st grade to college and beyond, but with this lifestyle, it's pretty impossible unless both parties are willing to update each other on everything, every year of their life. College for me was a nightmare - I got into an IVY League and failed almost every year. I secluded myself, I was depressed, insecure...just had no one. I used to change churches and it is only until God encouraged me to fast during one summer of repeat exams (and when my parents went away for a few days -otherwise, even fasting would have caused havoc in the house -anything but study just wouldn't crack it!) that I got the idea to congregate all the Christians in my class - not many, and only 3 other girls met up to pray for those who need Christ. I met up with this girl from Singapore who became a good confidante to me. She invited me to a very loving church where I stayed for 2 years. Things improved, but when she left, I felt quite alone. So I left and went back to an old church. I knew some people there, but was going and coming and really not feeling like I was part of any group per se. I seemed to get on with guys better and have one or two good guy friends there at present. I can tell you the rest of my story,but I think what you need to do is get out of the house, don't mess around with people (even if they are Christian) but openly messing with sin/playing with temptations, etc. Hang out with older girls in your church if need be and get involved in as many Christian events as possible. Just don't isolate yourself or think of yourself as being odd and not like anyone else. Yes, you are different, but God does it for greater purposes. Maybe He wants you to open this hairsalon in Switzerland which is quite cosmopolitan and because of your background, you can reach out to all! God gives us desires which are right for who He has made us to be...so, don't look down at what you've experienced...wait on Him to use it!! As for your relationship with Christ. I think it's impossible for any human on this earth to pray 24/7. Do you eat? Ever watch tv? Go to the bathroom? Every action you make is due to a thought you've had soo...24/7 is heavy...way too heavy to be true! Also excess is the devil's playground...so, if there is no balance in your life and you're just praying (as you say)...girl, you'll miss out on life and relationships. God expects us to draw from Him so that we can bless others. So, please...if this 24/7 thing is for REAL...lets cut it down a little, ok [8\|] I've to get to work - but please don't hesitate to contact me! God bless (HUGS)

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