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cavemun -> The Big D (9/18/2008 12:34:40 AM)
I haven't been on for a while cuz I have been out of my house for a while. My wife and I were having troubles so she asked for a seperation. That was 5 monthes ago. This a BAD idea for anyone that has issues other than violence in the home from a spouse where people are in danger My 11 yr old DS had a nervous breakdown over all this and my 15 yr old DD is now dating a 25 yr old. My wife just shrugs and says she can't stopher. I tried to by calling CPS onthe guy but my DD won't say anything and denies it. My wife is in the 4 bedroom house, has all the yard toys and all the furniture except few odd things. I live in a tiny 1 bedroom house with my 11yr old and his younger sister is here most of the time. I have bent over backwards trying to do everything she wants with the idea of reconciling. I went with her to her counseling sessions( she goes for depression) courted her, romanced her, everything she said I didnt do enough of. Now I find out she has issues with how her mom raised her (5 different step fathers and 4 states in 8 yrs) and issues with her first husband who cheated on her the 7 yrs they were married. We just hit 18 yrs. I'm so angry/ sad/emotionally drained I can't stand it!!!! I don't know what to do. Shes threatening to take the kids away. I want to just go to sleep an never wake up again. I have kept the 2 younger ones in church with me, my wife quit going and started drinking on trhe weekends. Its really hard to act happy during worship when u feel God has left you in a hole. Please pray for us. I didn't want this.

jaimestarcross -> RE: The Big D (9/18/2008 1:04:59 AM)
Unless your wife can prove in court that you are unsuitable to keep the children she's blowing smoke. Don't grow weary in doing what is right - continue going to church with your children and seeking the Lord for direction. Get into counseling with your children. Pray for your spouse and have some of the mature Christian ladies at church to visit with her when it's possible. If any family members or friends are available to help ask them on occasion to help in this situation.

Sadey -> RE: The Big D (9/18/2008 10:01:09 AM)
You may be in dispair but you are certainly doing the right thing by your children. Good for you. Keep it up, they have to be your first concern. You may be in a hole but Jesus is down there with you and he won't fail you.

MC4JC -> RE: The Big D (9/18/2008 9:44:32 PM)
No matter what happens, for now I would strongly advise you to put in for temporary custody of the kids. Most times, whoever files first, will be granted custody in the end. Don't wait and think it will just happen; especially for the man to get custody.

cavemun -> RE: The Big D (9/20/2008 12:12:55 AM)
Going to file monday.Got the paper work today. I have been suspicious of a "friend" she has she worked with up till about 2 months ago. He used to be my friend, I listened to him cry about how his wife divorced him years ago and it still hurt. They went out to dinner, the movies, she spent memorial day with him and his family, took my 15 yr old swimming with him and his kids, they bike ride together, etc. She has denied being anything more than friends. I finally called him and he confirmed my suspicions that they were in fact dating. He said he thought it was O.K. since we were seperated for over 3 months. I told himI knew it was longer than that. I'm done. I'm kinda mad but I feel more stupid than anything. We just had an overnight at our house to keep close. We were kissing just 2 days ago. I hope I haven't contracted any s.t.d.'s. This is gonna be hard for my kids. I told them Mom has a boyfriend but not that I was filing. I'm gonna be on my best behavior and polite no matter if it kills me. I am SO done with this. 18 yrs of being blamed for every problem is long enough.

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