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sty1919 -> Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 12:03:12 AM)

I am 21 and usually stay at home on weekend nights bored. My friends always invite me to do stuff but usually that means going to a party. If i go with them im not bored, but it is wrong. Anyone else ever feel the same way?



sudden -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 9:08:30 AM)

Dear sty1919:

No sty. I never felt that way. I've never seen anything wrong with going to parties but apparently you do. The giod news though is that parites are not the only game in town.

Someone who is 21 should not be sitting at home every weekend evening. No one should be sitting at home alone all the time. It is not healthy.

Why not invite a friend or friends to do something else that you consider enjoyable and/or interesting this coming weekend? There are many, many, things one could do besides attend a party. Use your imagination - go crazy with your ideas! Please let us know what you try and how it goes.

Yours for making the most of it,

Sudden



agapetos -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 10:00:00 AM)

I'm wondering what kind of parties you're talking about. Some would be fine to go to, others you're probably safer sitting at home getting bored.



manda59 -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 10:03:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sty1919
I am 21 and usually stay at home on weekend nights bored. My friends always invite me to do stuff but usually that means going to a party. If i go with them im not bored, but it is wrong. Anyone else ever feel the same way?




Do you go to church? Do they not have any kind of study or social event on a Sunday night?



Jenny-Fair -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 1:22:05 PM)

If your friends' only ideas of fun are things you are uncomfortable doing...then you need to make some new friends.



deermousie -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 6:10:05 PM)

Weekday nights are good for community soccer games, Bible studies, Toast Masters, club meetings and classes at the community college for ballroom dancing and folk dancing (as well as other stuff). There's so many things to do! Look at the local YMCA - they have all kinds of classes! Classes have people in them who are interesting. You can even learn how to graft apples trees (I have four I did, but three died a year later. At least I still have one!). Start a book club, and get together every month or two and discuss books. Willa Cather and Flannery O'Connor were the last two authors we did. We bring food and eat potluck while we talk, and if the book was made into a movie, we watch the movie after dinner. Great fun!



rgod -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/13/2008 8:42:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sty1919

I am 21 and usually stay at home on weekend nights bored. My friends always invite me to do stuff but usually that means going to a party. If i go with them im not bored, but it is wrong. Anyone else ever feel the same way?


sty1919: Yes, I felt like this a lot when I was in my early twenties. I was a Christian and really cared about walking with the Lord. My friends weren't at the time. Or they were Christians but going through the whole "rebellion" period. The parties they went to revolved around drinking and other things that I just didn't want to do. Plus, I've never been a party person - even now - I don't care for parties, although I will make myself go sometimes just to socialize with people. But I am always drained afterwards.

What you need to do is start thinking about other things you can do on Saturday nights and try to identify some friends that you can do those things with. It sounds like you have a good group of people who want to do things - so maybe sometimes (once a month or so) you guys can try something different. You can go bowling, have a game night at your house (computer games or board games), go dancing, try out new spots to eat, go to a coffee house and listen to music, go to a movie, rent videos, go to a planetarium, see an IMAX flick or something arty downtown, do road trips earlier in the day (so that you are tired on Saturday night), go to concerts, see a play or show, or something else. The key is to plan something. You might have to be the initiator. Maybe you can initially shoot to do something a couple of times a month and then that will morph into most Saturday nights.

If you don't have friends that you can do those things with, you might have to expand your circle a bit. Pray and ask God for friends who will do a lot of the things that you like to do. In the meantime while you are alone, you might want to try to plan to socialize with your friends earlier in the day - that way you can still cultivate those relationships and have fun - then spend the evening doing things that will refresh and relax you (like a "spa" night, watching a video, or doing some sort of hobby).



etrojan78 -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/14/2008 2:04:22 AM)

Hey sty, ur gonna be fine. Im 21 years also. U know, i know EXACTLY what u mean. All i can say is welcome to christianity. I had to realize that my old friends were doing things i didnt have a desire to do anymore. like u, i would be there and be convicted. trying to have fun but looking around and seeing all these people our age "happy" but knowing i had true JOY with God. whether at home or with other friends doing Godly things. I have left all that behind. my friends, a wonderful ex gf, all the fun....yes sin is fun but sin is sin and sin separates us from God. If your gonna be serious with God, you gotta pray that God enters your heart and takes those desires and confusion away. I know its tough. I miss my funny friends and my ex....and like the girl said above me...."rebellion"....this is what it is. I had to break up because even as a pastors' daughter, she wanted to "explore and be rebellious and the same with my friends.....dont know the Lord but only the TEMPORARY happiness' this sad world has to offer. I read my bible, pray, play my ps2 and listen to jeremy camp and kutless, rest. Or i go with the one friend i have in Christ right now to bible studies or to christian stores. get some grub and just keep each other in the word. Let those things go. Dont be confused or tempted. let ur flesh die and let God begin his work. its a tough road but great is ours in the kingdom of heaven. be a light and enter into as many dark hearts as u can. but read ur word and pray for fellowship. hit up the young adult ministry at ur church. Im home alone right now, but im fine. yea i think about hitting up a friend or 2 or saying, yea i know everyone is having fun out there right now, but honestly, i would rather be home reading my word and taking care of my temple of God. my body. Im over the smoke, sticky beer, throwing up, getting hm late and feeling horrible the next day, and most of all the conviction of knowing that if Jesus were to come at the time i was at this party, (just socializing) or partying hard.....i would feel real dumb, selfish and bad. partying or socializing, u would be there around that stuff and away from what u said was important to u. all that stuff is just a waist of time and only satisfies you for a little while. The worldly life gets u high only for a lil, but God's high never dies out. ur choice. i pray u stay strong. --Eric



GobboMon -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/14/2008 6:39:17 AM)

Hey Sty. Man I know exactly how you feel mate. I've been struggling with that for years. I'm 25 now. I started trying to center my life around god when I was 18. I'd just finished school and all my friend were at university studying, drinking, smoking dope, having elicit sex and just basically partying 3-4 times a week. I got to a point where I couldn't live in the same city as my old friends. It was like being stuck in two worlds but I knew what i wanted. Anyway I traveled a lot and made new friends that were in some way trying not to just to be god consciousness.



sty1919 -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/14/2008 10:33:24 AM)

thanks for your support and encouragement guys



deermousie -> RE: Weekend Nights (9/14/2008 1:59:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GobboMon

all my friend were at university studying, drinking, smoking dope, having elicit sex and just basically partying 3-4 times a week. I got to a point where I couldn't live in the same city as my old friends. It was like being stuck in two worlds but I knew what i wanted.


I remember meeting a fine young Christian man who told me how he got saved in high school and his non-Christian friends were pulling him down. So he dropped them, and for a year he felt like the Lone Ranger in school. The following year God gave him a whole bunch of committed Christian friends, and they encouraged each other. He was working when I met him and a lovely examply of godly manhood.



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