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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/13/2008 8:04:05 PM
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Nicole_Michelle
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Update from Nicole:
Nath is sleeping through the night. He gets grumpy half way through the day and doesn't like to nap alone so they are working on that. But he is sleeping at night so wooohooooo!
Her husband was being a bit grumpy , but notices it now and says that he needs to work on that. He said that Nicole was doing really good even when he was grumpy so he knows it is an attitude thing with him.
He is going home today via bus. It will take about 5.5 hours to get home. (I hope his bike gets fixed soon!)
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/13/2008 10:58:33 PM
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Thanks Nicole for updating!!
Jae- things are going well with his sleeping. Thanks for asking. Like Nicole said, night is ok, day is the hardest but I don't think he wants to sleep as long now as he sleeps all night.
Hubby has been a grump all day today but I have managed to get him out of it with lots of kisses, coffee, massage, silly jokes, and praying together (i prayed, he amene'd).
I am not really sure what else to do to get him out of his moods, he is in them even if i have done nothing wrong, he was in one because Grace was saying "no" to my mum and him while I was napping. Not my fault, but to him it was and it made him mad. If you can pray for him this week that he can manage the stress of work and not be tempted to smoke, that would be great!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/14/2008 9:37:17 PM
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Phew, he nearly didn't make it home last night, the bus company messed up the booking, but thankfully they were able to fit him on the last bus out so he could work today. I am going to miss him this week but really work on and think of things I can do for him that will make him happy.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/14/2008 9:47:48 PM
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Hope you have a good week, Nicole. So, are you feeling rested since Nath started sleeping better?
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/14/2008 10:09:40 PM
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Stine- yes i feel a lot better and rested, and able to think clearly, its been so good and I am sorry I didn't do the training with him earlier. But its all good now :)
Thanks Jae- yes I need to stop and slow down and let God in and help, I like to run ahead sometimes, so thanks for the reminder.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/17/2008 8:21:37 PM
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nicole6598
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LOL
Well I didn't think people were reading anymore so I didn't bother updating 
Nath is sleeping well, Paed happy, we are happy, he is happy.
Hubby and I have been apart another week, but he is alot more happier and friendlier on the phone, we have had some great funny conversations. He comes in Friday night on the plane and we go back home monday. Can't wait!!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/18/2008 8:56:04 AM
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(((((((((((((((NICOLE)))))))))))))))))))))))
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/18/2008 10:45:12 AM
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Of course, we're still reading... and praying!!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/18/2008 11:38:43 AM
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Nicole I am so happy for you! Everything seems to be in place! :)
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/18/2008 6:12:43 PM
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Thanks Christina :) We say silly things sometimes don't we?
He gets in tonight. I am excited to see him again. I am nervous about going back home though. He was grumpy last night on the phone. He said to a guy in church who is starting up youth group that he will help on the 3 fridays a month. I said maybe he should just commit to one a month so we can spend more time together, he went all silent and wasn't happy about that. Its just that 2 tuesdays a month he is out, one is church board, the other is his drag club, then 3 fridays, 2 wed a month. I just think that's alot, especially when I don't do anything, so if I was to meet with women bible study one night a week it doesn't leave much time to spend together. He also wanted to go to work monday night when we get back instead of Wed. I asked him if it was ok that the first night we get back that he doesn't go to work. I just really hope things will change.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/18/2008 10:00:25 PM
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Nicole, I'm so glad Nath is sleeping through the night now!
Good to hear that things are at least heading in the right direction with your husband. Of course there will be setbacks - just keep on keeping on!
How's the not smoking going? A few posts ago you mentioned how proud you were of him. Did you tell him that? If not - definitely do!
Still praying for you all.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/19/2008 6:24:02 AM
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Tammy- thanks :)
I did tell him I was proud of him for stopping the smoking again, but he just called before boarding the plane to get here and told me he smoked again today. I feel so disappointed. I don't know what to say. I might just keep my mouth shut. LOL not something I am good at but I think it may be needed, especially until he is feeling more relaxed, he said today at work was hard.
It could get a little stressful on him the next two days with things we have to do with my family, they annoy him a bit, but hopefully he handles it well and like someone else said, with me getting more sleep I will be able to not react to him when or if he does get in a mood.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/20/2008 11:31:45 AM
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Hang in there, Nicole.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/20/2008 11:36:33 AM
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Oh, that's a bummer Nicole. Well, hopefully he'll pick up where he left off.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/20/2008 6:18:07 PM
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nicole6598
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Well hubby got in ok. I went to the wrong section to pick him up (mum told me the wrong part) so that put him in a bad mood with me for a few hours until we went to bed then he snuggled and apologised. Yesterday was mums birthday and Nath's party. He was grumpy most of the day until he took his bike out for a ride through the hills and stuff and came back happier. He wants to go home today after my brothers party which I didn't really want him to do as he will go through the windy road way where he had the accident a few months ago instead of going along the straight highway with me tomorrow.
Ugh. this is hard being the bigger person.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/21/2008 1:11:05 AM
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It is Nicole. I wanted to share some info about smoking with you, but you might already know it. When a person smokes, they create nicotine receptors in their brain, the more your smoke, the more there are. When you quit, the receptors aren't getting any nicotine, and it makes a person real cranky. Eventually the nicotine receptors go away after being quit for so long. When a person relapses like your hubby did, they recreate the receptors in their brain. And, now he's not smoking again, so he's gotta go through withdrawl all over again. Probably could be why he is so crabby. If you look at addiction as a kind of disease, it becomes easier to forgive the person and understand their irrational behavior. I hope that helps.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/21/2008 2:39:27 PM
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That's great info, Stina!
Nicole, I think the more you are the bigger person, the easier it gets. I have also normally experienced that the more you are the bigger person the more the other person reacts in a less aggressive manner. That isn't always true, but most people simply want to be loved and respected. Those two things allow a person to be more trusting with you and not to have those grumpy defensive reactions as often. So, don't lose hope and don't give up quickly. Remember that love is patient, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love ya!!!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/21/2008 5:38:31 PM
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ORIGINAL: Mrs.X
It is Nicole. I wanted to share some info about smoking with you, but you might already know it. When a person smokes, they create nicotine receptors in their brain, the more your smoke, the more there are. When you quit, the receptors aren't getting any nicotine, and it makes a person real cranky. Eventually the nicotine receptors go away after being quit for so long. When a person relapses like your hubby did, they recreate the receptors in their brain. And, now he's not smoking again, so he's gotta go through withdrawl all over again. Probably could be why he is so crabby. If you look at addiction as a kind of disease, it becomes easier to forgive the person and understand their irrational behavior. I hope that helps.
yup....for more info and great links you should check out the "quitting smoking" thread in the health and fitness folder...there are some great ones there. It might help him also to see some stuff in writing about all of that.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/22/2008 12:25:37 AM
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nicole6598
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Thanks Christina and Sarah.
He hasn't fully stopped again. He had one today. he went the whole weekend without one though. He said " I'm over it" meaning the quitting smoking.
I am home. so yay for that. He worked last night though even though he didn't start til wed so he was fast asleep when we got in just after lunch. The house was ok, but the bathroom was TERRIBLE! And the sheets are the same ones I put on before we left so he has been in them for like 3 weeks  There is no fresh food in the house so take out it is for dinner. I just really hope things will not go back the way they were. I am feeling a little flat today and overwhelmed.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/22/2008 1:06:20 AM
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Oh yuck, Nicole! Did your hubby live alone at all before you married? Robert only lived by himself for 6 months or so before we moved in together. Other times he lived with a GF or his mom, and he's like that. LOL
Well, I hope his mood changes and he gets started on making positive changes.
< Message edited by Mrs.X -- 9/22/2008 12:09:24 PM >
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/22/2008 1:55:44 AM
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Um the only time hubby lived alone was when he was 15 for a few months. He lived with his parents til we got married, his mother wasn't big on cleaning herself and his room was in constant dissaray! I had to spend a whole afternoon cleaning it one time he was away as there were ants EVERYWHERE and they were getting into his parents kitchen.
He woke up in a bad mood. Nath had to take a nap and he cried for 10 mins, so that didn't impress him. 10 minutes is pretty good for his first time back in his bed!! Hopefully he picks up as he's not working tonight or tomorrow, he will go into work tomorrow night after dinner.
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