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joy2give2u -> Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 1:08:55 PM)
In another thread about things to ask on a first date someone mentioned imagining what he/she would look like when older and then another mentioned meeting and getting to know the parents of someone in order to get a good glimps of what he/she will look,act and be like when older. If this is true I thought it would be fun to share how we see our parents, whether we see ourselves looking and acting like them when we get older, and how could we best sell ourselves, using our parents, to a potential mate. For example.........my mother, at 65, is very active. She still builds fences, works in her garden, paints the house, and even put a roof(did the work herself) on her house last summer. She is always doing this or that and is far from a couch potatoe. I see my mother as a very strong woman who is not even close to slowing down. I am very similar to her now as far as always being active so I imagine I will be the same at her age..... I would make a good wife, based on my mother, because I am full of energy and am not the type to sit twiddling my thumbs.

WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 1:39:33 PM)
I love my mother, but we are polar opposites. I was nothing like her in my marriage or in my parenting. We have different moral values. She is a liberal and I am conservative. She was very permissive as a parent and I tend to be considered strict, at least by my children.[:D] We do resemble each other. If we stand next to each other you can tell we are mother and daughter.

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 1:45:55 PM)
So when a man meets your mother would you use your differences as a selling point? My mother and I are very different in many ways but the things which are a positive for her are what I think I would use as a selling point......... My mother looks very young for her age.........she has hardly any wrinkles and her hair is still full of body and color....... So if a man imagines me at 65 having the same complexion as my mother that would be a very positive thing......... My mom has a very beautiful face.

mutinywxgirl -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 1:48:51 PM)
My mother exhibited the grace and elegance of the old hollywood movie stars - and always looked like one too. She gave me my cheekbones and skin (for which I am extremely thankful!). She passed along her classic taste in everything. I can't answer much more right now.

WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:11:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: joy2give2u So when a man meets your mother would you use your differences as a selling point? My mother and I are very different in many ways but the things which are a positive for her are what I think I would use as a selling point......... My mother looks very young for her age.........she has hardly any wrinkles and her hair is still full of body and color....... So if a man imagines me at 65 having the same complexion as my mother that would be a very positive thing......... My mom has a very beautiful face. Most likely my mother will meet whomever God has chosen for me after we are already serious or even engaged. She lives in Arkansas and I live in Arizona. quote: So when a man meets your mother would you use your differences as a selling point? Wow! I immediately got my knickers in a knot when I read this, so.....deep breath................................................................... I am not selling anything! If I ever get married again, it will be because there is #1 a man out there that God has chosen for me, and #2 he has fallen in love with who I am. All of me, my good qualities and my flaws. My mother does not figure in at all! The only way I will marry him is if he can't live without me and I cannot imagine living without him. Honestly if he is looking for selling points, I have one thing to say...NEXT!!! Edited : In the words of Gilda Radner.............Never Mind!

Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:32:27 PM)
Emotionally I am nothing like my mother. She is very passive and I'm not. She bottles up, I don't. She indulges, I don't. She's a very kind, very caring, very thoughtful person. I'm fairly selfish. She's more patient than I am. However she's not nearly as fun as I am, and she's a lot more sarcastic. I am more like my father in temper and discipline. If a man were to look to my mother to see what I would look like in 20 years he would be sorely disappointed. My mother is fair, blonde and German. I am Hispanic. [8D]

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:34:03 PM)
quote: If I ever get married again, it will be because there is #1 a man out there that God has chosen for me, and #2 he has fallen in love with who I am. All of me, my good qualities and my flaws. My mother does not figure in at all! The only way I will marry him is if he can't live without me and I cannot imagine living without him. Honestly if he is looking for selling points, I have one thing to say...NEXT!!! Well girlie go unknot your knickers cause this thread is just a fun thread based on two comments made in the first date thread. Maybe it would help if I linked those post huh........ post.......read number 44 and 46 Does that help?

mutinywxgirl -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:46:54 PM)
how about the grandparents? that's who I take after - have been told I'm the spitting image of my grandmother pictured here. she lived to be 88 and died in her sleep - still living alone and driving! Mom gave me grace and elegance - my grandmother (along with dad) gave me my independent spirit - and my paternal grandfather gave me my passion for soccer. I'm the female version of my father - that is not a good thing.

WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:48:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: joy2give2u quote: If I ever get married again, it will be because there is #1 a man out there that God has chosen for me, and #2 he has fallen in love with who I am. All of me, my good qualities and my flaws. My mother does not figure in at all! The only way I will marry him is if he can't live without me and I cannot imagine living without him. Honestly if he is looking for selling points, I have one thing to say...NEXT!!! Well girlie go unknot your knickers cause this thread is just a fun thread based on two comments made in the first date thread. Maybe it would help if I linked those post huh........ post.......read number 44 and 46 Does that help? Yep! I went back and read what looks like it was a very fun conversation. Still the words "selling points"[:@]... But no matter, that's just me. [:)] Carry on.

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:54:00 PM)
Yes grandparents are fine as well. Actually please feel free using aunts and uncles.........the point was to share about older family members in our lives, who when meet, would give a glimpse of what we might be like at that age. On a side note it is really strange seeing my mom on here........I read the post, forgetting I wrote them, instead thinking my mom is talking to me.........weird.... LOLOLOL

mutinywxgirl -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:56:08 PM)
Well, other than my parents, everyone is dead......so we can only go by pics and what others tell you.

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 2:57:15 PM)
quote: Still the words "selling points" ... But no matter, that's just me. LOL I probably used the words because I personally think using our parents as a deciding factor in whether someone is date worthy or not is silly.....it reminds me of the attitude, which some have, that finding a mate is like buying a car.........better look at the older models first to see how well they held up against time before buying the newer one.........thus the words selling point LOL

broyce1981 -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 3:25:16 PM)
How am I like my parents? Ummm.....Uhhhh.....can I pass? I tried thinking of anything and about all I could come up with is my dad is tall too and my mom likes the Beatles too. That's about all I've got. With the exception of one of my brothers, I am very unlike the rest of my family.

iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 3:26:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz Most likely my mother will meet whomever God has chosen for me after we are already serious or even engaged. She lives in Arkansas and I live in Arizona. do you think he'd see any family photos though? i've heard lots of advice about looking at mom for how daughter may turn out ...

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 3:54:34 PM)
Tall is good........definitely a selling point I would say. (humor humor I am not serious about buying a man) So if I were a woman who liked tall men and the beatles when I met your parents, still being tall and liking the beatles at their age, I would be in love.[sm=icon_smile_kisses.gif][sm=icon_smile_kisses.gif]

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 3:56:18 PM)
quote: i've heard lots of advice about looking at mom for how daughter may turn out ... I hope I physically turn out like my mother at her age.........I think she is still beautiful

Prairiehiker -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 7:25:50 PM)
Well, let's see. My mother is 80 years old, have been married for 63 years to one man, and have given birth to 13 and raised children. At 80, she's still pretty agile, though she was never active like me. She's very smart, though, more life smart, than academically smart. She's the best cook in the world....bar none. If I'm ever half the woman that she is, I'll be a pretty good catch! Edit: I have 10 sisters, and all of them ended up looking like my mom as soon as they got married....meaning, they all gained weight like she did. I somehow broke the mold because I'm so active, and I doubt I'd look like her. However, at 80, she's still glowing and her true inner beauty still makes her radiant.

WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/3/2008 7:48:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iwillfearnoevil quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz Most likely my mother will meet whomever God has chosen for me after we are already serious or even engaged. She lives in Arkansas and I live in Arizona. do you think he'd see any family photos though? i've heard lots of advice about looking at mom for how daughter may turn out ... Why? What exactly is the point I'm wondering. I am not defensive on the point, Thank God I look good for my age, I am just astounded that Ya'll find it okay to decide if you want to be with someone based on what years and gravity may do to their body.[sm=worried.gif] Guy's, what if she said to you, so how many of your family members have gone bald or have e-----l dysfunction. LOL I mean seriously! I thought my hubby was gorgious when we were dating, I thought he was gorgious 80 lbs and 20 years later. Even when he was in his hospital bed dying I treated him as though he was the most incredibly good looking man in the world, because in my heart he was. The smile on his face when I walked into his room and said Hi good looking, with his hair falling out from Chemo and drooling from paralysis, was worth it every time. Sorry Joy, He asked.[&:]

CoeurdeLeon_ -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 8:31:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz quote: ORIGINAL: iwillfearnoevil quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz Most likely my mother will meet whomever God has chosen for me after we are already serious or even engaged. She lives in Arkansas and I live in Arizona. do you think he'd see any family photos though? i've heard lots of advice about looking at mom for how daughter may turn out ... Why? What exactly is the point I'm wondering. I am not defensive on the point, Thank God I look good for my age, I am just astounded that Ya'll find it okay to decide if you want to be with someone based on what years and gravity may do to their body.[sm=worried.gif] Guy's, what if she said to you, so how many of your family members have gone bald or have e-----l dysfunction. LOL I mean seriously! Bravo!!!! Some of this stuff is every bit as ridiculous as a girl wanting to know how big the package is before the wedding night and making decisions based on that. Please excuse my vulgarity but that is EXACTLY what this is. All of this is about trying to avoid "being disappointed" in some non-essential aspect of someone you are supposed to love unconditionally at some future time and just makes my skin crawl.

bluestone -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 8:54:59 AM)
People age. Most people put on weight as they age. Some have their teeth go bad. Others can't perform sexually anymore. Dementia sets in. Part of the thrill of romance is the unknown future you want to share with someone who has become inbedded in your heart. If your wedding vows need to state that you will love and honor as long as your spouse does not gain a lot of weight, never gets sick, hair does not fall out, can perform in the bedroom at 60 as well as he/she did at 25, or DOES NOT LOOK LIKE HER MOTHER, well, you have no more business getting married than a brick does. Shallow is as shallow does.

WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 9:46:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz quote: ORIGINAL: iwillfearnoevil quote: ORIGINAL: WaitingforBoaz Most likely my mother will meet whomever God has chosen for me after we are already serious or even engaged. She lives in Arkansas and I live in Arizona. do you think he'd see any family photos though? i've heard lots of advice about looking at mom for how daughter may turn out ... Why? What exactly is the point I'm wondering. I am not defensive on the point, Thank God I look good for my age, I am just astounded that Ya'll find it okay to decide if you want to be with someone based on what years and gravity may do to their body.[sm=worried.gif] Guy's, what if she said to you, so how many of your family members have gone bald or have e-----l dysfunction. LOL I mean seriously! Bravo!!!! Some of this stuff is every bit as ridiculous as a girl wanting to know how big the package is before the wedding night and making decisions based on that. Please excuse my vulgarity but that is EXACTLY what this is. All of this is about trying to avoid "being disappointed" in some non-essential aspect of someone you are supposed to love unconditionally at some future time and just makes my skin crawl. Ah, the voice of reason. Thanks Lioness!

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 9:54:59 AM)
quote: I thought my hubby was gorgious when we were dating, I thought he was gorgious 80 lbs and 20 years later. Even when he was in his hospital bed dying I treated him as though he was the most incredibly good looking man in the world, because in my heart he was. The smile on his face when I walked into his room and said Hi good looking, with his hair falling out from Chemo and drooling from paralysis, was worth it every time. Sorry Joy, He asked. Don't be sorry Nadine.......I happen to agree with you........I think it is sad more for those people then those they reject........Thank you for sharing how you saw your husband........it is touching.

stellaluna -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 10:09:03 AM)
I frankly can't believe how often this topic pops up in Singles. There seem to be some people around here who are seriously hung up on what their spouse is going to look like when they're 70. WHO CARES? Do you honestly think you're going to look the same then, or even 10 years from now? And do you honestly want your future spouse to look at your mother or father and decide, based on their looks, whether to marry you? Come on.

Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 10:15:05 AM)
Ugh! I had a great post all typed up too!!! [:@][:@][:@] Anyway...what I had said was, it does beg to look at parents sometimes to kind of get an idea as to how someone is or will be. My parents are very biting, sarcastic, hard people. They love their family, but they are very snide about it. My mother can't give me or my brother a compliment unless it's served backhanded and my father feels he's the only one who knows anything and doesn't validate anyone's opinion other than his. So if anyone were to meet my parents after meeting me they would be like, 'Ahh...now I see where she gets it from.' You know? It helps open the door to understanding and grace. (this time I'm C&Ping my post!) [8\|]

joy2give2u -> RE: Show me the parents!!!!!!! (9/4/2008 10:41:25 AM)
Stellaluna what I find interesting is how often topics, which aren't really intended to be about looks alone, because such......... The thread was intended to be humorous and a way for us to brag on our parents or older relatives.........if you notice in the OP the question also included act and be like......... quote: getting to know the parents of someone in order to get a good glimpse of what he/she will look,act and be like when older. The example I gave had nothing to do with what my mother looks like but her activities level and the things she still loves to do. I will introduce a potential husband to my mother because who I am is largely based on who she has become. quote: So if anyone were to meet my parents after meeting me they would be like, 'Ahh...now I see where she gets it from.' You know? It helps open the door to understanding and grace. Good point Tink.........We all have parts of our parents in us whether we like to admit it or not.......LOL As for the physical.......Someone who cares so much about someone physical appearance, that he would want to meet their parents before deciding if he/she is "good" enough for them, isn't good enough for me to introduce to my familyLOL

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