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shadowspring -> RE: seeks more affection. help? (8/30/2008 2:05:02 PM)
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Keep taking your concerns to God in prayer, fingerprints. That may sound trite, but it is not trite, it is POWERFUL!
Next, try being more physically affectionate with your husband. You reach for his hand when you're walking down the road. Smile and kiss him on the cheek and say "I love you" each time you have been parted for a short time- when you return from work, the grocery store, etc.
If he is a couch potato, sit next to him and snuggle up with him for a few minutes. Even if TV bores you and you get up and leave, try to snuggle with him several times a night.
As far as the words of affirmation, make a list of affirming scriptures and say them out loud to yourself morning and night. It also helps to have girlfriends with the gift of encouragement. Don't look to dh to meet all your needs!
Finally, along with prayer and loving-kindness, do keep talking to him about your likes. But try to do it in a positive way. Reward him big time with lots of gratitude when he rises to the occasion and first reaches for your hand on a walk! Don't talk as much about when he has let you down or not been there for you, try to talk up the times he has come through.
And keep praying! Oh, and you can't pray too much. Don't worry about that! [;)]
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