TwinCityGirl
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The part I find surprising is that the counselor is the woman's father.
I am not very familiar with premarital counseling, so I was wondering if this is:
1. common
2. wise
3. appropriate
Wow, a lot of negative answers on this one! 
My dad is a pastor, and had been pastoring for 20 years when I got married. He did our premarital counseling and he performed our wedding. There was nothing creepy about it. We took a written "test" (separately) and the results were sent to a testing place, put into a report and sent back. Anything we had marked quite differently from each other was discussed, as well as some other things.
It wasn't hard at all to do this with my dad, and my husband says it maybe seemed a little strange, it also held him accountable. It worked for us. We were in our early 30's when we got married so I think that helped, too. I personally wouldn't have wanted to go to some third party pastor who didn't know us and wasn't going to know us and have him give us counsel.
We've been married almost 10 years and we have the best marriage I have ever seen. So it worked for us.
If my DH had been really opposed to going to my dad for the premarital counseling (and I believe we had about 5 hours, not 40), I would have conceded to go elsewhere, but DH was fine with it.
Jeanie
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