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TheRefinersFire -> Strong men (8/9/2008 10:30:42 PM)

I feel rather silly asking this question. I have heard it from many sources that women like "strong men". What are you referring to when talking about a "strong man"? Physical strength? Emotional strength?



slimon11 -> RE: Strong men (8/9/2008 10:53:42 PM)

Spiritually strong. If I ever marry, I'd hope he'd be able to teach me a thing or two about God and have knoweldge and wisdom that is greater than mine.



twinkly -> RE: Strong men (8/9/2008 11:17:27 PM)

I like a man to be strong in many areas.

Physical strength, yes. I like a tall strong not wimpy man.
Emotionally strong. I don't mind being someone he can talk to, but I can't stand wishy washy indecisive men. Or those who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Or, who depend on ME for their happiness. I need a man who knows how to appropriately handle their emotions.
Spiritually strong: Not wishy washy in their walk. Not fake in their walk. Not just a once a week Christian. He doesn't have to be thumping everyone with a bible, but please at least trust God with all things.
Mentally strong: focused, goal minded, no mental issues.

that is what a strong man means to me.



ebony101 -> RE: Strong men (8/10/2008 5:35:53 AM)

I agree with twinkly.



PrincessButtercup -> RE: Strong men (8/10/2008 3:58:38 PM)

I want my guy physically strong enough to be able to protect me from people with bad intentions and killer chipmunks.

I want him emotionally strong enough to control himself even when something upsets him. But I still want him to be able to pour out his heart to me.

And spiritually strong, at least matching my strength. I want to be able to discuss things of God with him, and be able to look to him as a spiritual leader.



sunluvingirl -> RE: Strong men (8/10/2008 4:45:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PrincessButtercup

I want my guy physically strong enough to be able to protect me from people with bad intentions and killer chipmunks.

I want him emotionally strong enough to control himself even when something upsets him. But I still want him to be able to pour out his heart to me.

And spiritually strong, at least matching my strength. I want to be able to discuss things of God with him, and be able to look to him as a spiritual leader.

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LivingParadox -> RE: Strong men (8/10/2008 9:41:58 PM)

Good news ....most men are physically stronger than most females...so the physical strength questions is yes.

With that said, I think when I refer to strong it's more "Strong in God", "Strong in Character". That kind of strength only grows where as we get older the physical kind of strength wains.



car2ner -> RE: Strong men (8/11/2008 8:10:44 AM)

not a silly question at all. The women above have spelled it out very well.

When I say strong, I mean emotionally and spiriturally. BUT, at the end of the day when I snuggle up close, I like a good strong body as well.



ebony101 -> RE: Strong men (8/12/2008 5:16:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: car2ner
at the end of the day when I snuggle up close, I like a good strong body as well.


Oooh yeah. I certainly agree with that [:D].

A-hem [&o] now to get to the topic of the thread [8|]. I'll just deal with physically strong right now (when I come up with thoughts on the other aspects I'll post them).

If a man is physically strong, I feel safe with him. And I'm sure that he'll be able to fulfil his role as protector. But if he's physically strong and doesn't do the things a protector should do, then I wouldn't feel safe with him at all. I like the feeling of being safe with a guy, it's a good feeling to know that he's looking out for me.



ChiefWannahakaloogie -> RE: Strong men (8/12/2008 4:26:42 PM)

men are supposed to be strong and leaders. physically, mentally, emotionally, whatever. obviously thats not saying women arent strong emotionally, mentally, spiritually etc etc but men are supposed to be the leaders.

i like a strong man in all ways.



sudden -> RE: Strong men (8/13/2008 7:36:59 PM)

A strong man is one who focuses on his greater purpose. He applies himself mentally, physiclally, emotionally and spiritually in a humble manner, with a sense of fun and does not waver from his path.

He is like Jesus

Sudden



TheRefinersFire -> RE: Strong men (8/18/2008 9:24:08 PM)

Thank you for your replies. I am learning so much.



BjoyMN -> RE: Strong men (8/20/2008 10:44:40 AM)

Refering to a man as being strong could mean many different things. My first thought is that he is physically strong and most women desire a man who is stronger than they are who they know can can protect them. This is natural for us...God made men bigger and stronger than women for many good reasons.

Another huge strength for a man can be his overall character. Does he walk with confidence in Christ?....this kind of strength is as obvious as physical strength and very attractive to most women. It could also be described as integrity.

I am grateful for all the strong men in my life,
BjoyMN



Love2play -> RE: Strong men (8/20/2008 1:04:07 PM)

Strong men for me are:

1. Men who are spirtually strong
2. Men that can stand up for themselves
3. Men who make their own decisions and doesn't always depend on other people's opinions (it's different if he asks for someone's opinion and thinks about it, but makes his own decision in the end)
4. Men who are confident (for example, isn't afraid to ask a girl out or just even go up and talk to her and doesn't wait for her to make the first move)[;)]



Anamchara -> RE: Strong men (8/21/2008 7:23:35 PM)

Well yes I like physical strength, I appreciate when someone is emotionally stable..can be strong when needed, and humble too. I REALLY appreciate someone who is spiritually strong, grounded, educated. I like for my mind and heart to be challenged by theirs. I want to see them to be in a spiritual maturity where they can lead the household like God has called them to. Hope this helps!



Catalpa -> RE: Strong men (8/21/2008 9:53:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PrincessButtercup

I want my guy physically strong enough to be able to protect me from people with bad intentions and killer chipmunks.

I want him emotionally strong enough to control himself even when something upsets him. But I still want him to be able to pour out his heart to me.

And spiritually strong, at least matching my strength. I want to be able to discuss things of God with him, and be able to look to him as a spiritual leader.


What Princess said. (Very well said, by the way!) I see a man as a Provider/Protector/Partner. So that does mean physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually strong. Not 'crazy biker man' strong, but a quiet strength that comes from confidence, maturity, and a close walk with God.

So where is he? Sigh.



rgod -> RE: Strong men (8/22/2008 8:58:21 PM)

I like emotional and spiritual strength. That doesn't mean that he can't cry or isn't ever weak. Everyone is sometimes. But I like to feel safe with him and that he would exhibit strength more often than not. The strength can be quiet, which is really nice - the best kind of strength.

I like physical strength as well - but he doesn't have to be a body builder. But most men, even if they are skinny and look like a good strong wind could blow them away have physical strength. It is amazing - like they have muscles of steel or something. Even Tom Petty or Keith Richards could probably pick up a couch and move it across the room. (Ok, maybe not Keith Richards. That's stretching it a bit.) I once watched my pastor who is short and thin pick up a heavy, solid wood preacher's pulpit and move it. Needless to say, I was in total and complete awe. Personally, I would have gotten a dolly and still would have been struggling. (Who am I kidding? I would have rearranged all of the chairs and left the pulpit where it was. Nothing wrong with a pulpit in the foyer [;)].) But he barely broke a sweat.

So what am I saying here ... Oh yes ... I'm not saying that I want a man to be able to pick up a pulpit. I like emotional and spiritual strength - a man who basically knows his mind - has direction - can roll with the punches without falling apart all of the time. Of course there are times when he is scared or hurting or something else. That's normal. But I value that over physical strength. However, if he is emotionally and spiritually strong AND he can open a spaghetti jar - this is a good thing. Heck, if he can open a relish jar I will be impressed.



creationtalk -> RE: Strong men (9/1/2008 11:28:36 PM)

I agree with what everyone has posted pretty much.

I think that to me, a strong man is one who is morally sound. A man who will make the right decision even if it is not the easy or convenient decision.

Course, I also like physical strength...it's really helpful when I have to clear timber, load a horse, carry grain...

And emotionally strong...though I tend to see that more as emotionally stable. A strong man can and will cry (sometimes it takes a strong man to allow himself to cry).



car2ner -> RE: Strong men (9/2/2008 1:20:33 PM)

I can just imagine men reading all of this and thinking," sheesh, this guy would have to be superman".

So the other side of the equation is, if the man is "strong" as we all defined it, it makes it easier for women to live in the complementary role.



raivyne -> RE: Strong men (9/4/2008 1:57:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: twinkly

I like a man to be strong in many areas.

Physical strength, yes. I like a tall strong not wimpy man.
Emotionally strong. I don't mind being someone he can talk to, but I can't stand wishy washy indecisive men. Or those who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Or, who depend on ME for their happiness. I need a man who knows how to appropriately handle their emotions.
Spiritually strong: Not wishy washy in their walk. Not fake in their walk. Not just a once a week Christian. He doesn't have to be thumping everyone with a bible, but please at least trust God with all things.
Mentally strong: focused, goal minded, no mental issues.

that is what a strong man means to me.


What she said.



Focusing -> RE: Strong men (9/5/2008 3:06:15 PM)

quote:

What are you referring to when talking about a "strong man"?


Like others have said: spiritual, emotional, physical.



salvaged -> RE: Strong men (9/18/2008 10:00:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TheRefinersFire

I feel rather silly asking this question. I have heard it from many sources that women like "strong men". What are you referring to when talking about a "strong man"? Physical strength? Emotional strength?


Character. I think it's character... when a guy is strong enough to stand for what he believes even if ridiculed... when he can make his true feelings known (even if that involves a tear or two)... when he may be afraid of uncertain outcome, but pushes on with the path he believes is right.. when he can speak his mind without taking a "superior" route... when he can face me when I'm angry about a situation and understand that I don't hate him... when he has a job to accomplish and will persevere through pain... when he can keep a promise that is difficult to fulfill... when he can be honest enough to say, "I'm in over my head"... and when he's strong enough to hold me in his arms and "hold" his tongue (when all I want is a shoulder).



jesuschick247 -> RE: Strong men (9/18/2008 10:53:52 AM)

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Character. I think it's character... when a guy is strong enough to stand for what he believes even if ridiculed... when he can make his true feelings known (even if that involves a tear or two)... when he may be afraid of uncertain outcome, but pushes on with the path he believes is right.. when he can speak his mind without taking a "superior" route... when he can face me when I'm angry about a situation and understand that I don't hate him... when he has a job to accomplish and will persevere through pain... when he can keep a promise that is difficult to fulfill... when he can be honest enough to say, "I'm in over my head"... and when he's strong enough to hold me in his arms and "hold" his tongue (when all I want is a shoulder).


I totally agree with salvaged on this one!!

Although, I do have to add, after hurting my knee really bad in playing volleyball in high school and having to be carried off the court, I would kind of feel safer if he was physically strong also! Just in case he ever did need to be!

And spiritual strength is also THE MOST IMPORTANT thing to me, I want him to be the spiritual leader in our household, so for that to happen, he has to be just as strong in his walk with Jesus Christ as I am, and we need to be able to grow together!

A guy who is willing to cry, even when it might make him look "bad", like at the altar or when God is really touching him, is a strong man in my personal opinion. It shows me he has depth to him and is not shallow!



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: Strong men (9/18/2008 10:44:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TheRefinersFire

I feel rather silly asking this question. I have heard it from many sources that women like "strong men". What are you referring to when talking about a "strong man"? Physical strength? Emotional strength?


Physical strength is a part of the deal, but it's not all of it. He does not have to have super-human strength. If he uses his brains in addition to his muscles, he can accomplish so much more.

Emotional strength - I want him to be strong when I'm weak. I'm not always weak, but sometimes I just want to come home and fall into someone's arms after a rough day. I also want someone I can look up to... I want to be able to say that he seems so calm when I feel there's a storm a'brewing. Reassurance.

That said, I don't trust a guy who can't show any emotions. We all have emotional moments, and emotional strength says "I can trust you with my feelings". It fosters emotional intimacy when both partners can reveal what's on their heart. Truly, that takes strength, too.



ebony101 -> RE: Strong men (9/26/2008 2:50:43 AM)

I think the emotional strength will develop over time, i.e. as the relationship grows - for both men and women. But women may tend to invest a little more emotionally than men.



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