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Sarrah930 -> what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 6:09:54 AM)

I have been dating a man for awhile and I have found myself inlove with him. For whatever reason, these feelings developed quite quickly while I have been fighting to guard my heart and I have not told him how I feel. I feel as though I'm not just "inlove" with him. I love him in every way; as a friend, I do find him attractive, I support him in whatever he is trying to pursue (which is in line with God). I'm surprised because I am giddy when I know I'm going to see him. In my heart I feel he is "the One." My question is, if I am wrong (which I hope I'm not) why would God allow all these feelings in this way? Or is this what is called life? I have done minimal dating but it has been over 10 yrs since I felt this way about someone...Any words of wisdom would be helpful?



hotrodkev -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 8:36:49 AM)

Well God does allow some of us to fall in love, might be the one forever or not! But enjoy the feelings, and when both of you feel the time is right you will tell each other and express, but don't hide feelings, or cover up, but before you start pouring it on the table make sure he feels the same for you!!! 1 sided relationships never work and don't think you can change the way he feels or things cause you feel this way. Be realistic but most of all enjoy the ride. don't go get way serious and start analyzing everything, IVE DONE IT! Let things take their course and if you are 100% in love with him and you have it in your heart to tell him, then do it! But make sure 100% that the feelings are mutual, not just said. But most of all Yes God does grant this feeling when you have let your heart and hurt go from the past, and sometimes its a short love that is strong or a long bond forever! ENJOY IT sweetie, cause when LOVE is honest and true, nothing can hold a candle to how you feel at that time! 10 yrs is about how long its been since I have been like that myself and I think I'm ready to finally love and trust deep in my heart! We all take time and I really wish you the best, Aim HIGH and be honest with him and yourself and you shall go far!



MWD -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 10:29:09 AM)

> My question is, if I am wrong (which I hope I'm not) why would
> God allow all these feelings in this way?
> Or is this what is called life?

In my opinion, your second guess is closer to the truth. God's the beacon, but your feelings are your own to manage -- to rein them in or to give them free rein according to your own best enlightened judgment, that enlightenment coming of course from the Holy Spirit inside you. In that broad sense, God is not the controller, but He's there as a consultant if you want Him.



bluestone -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 10:30:33 AM)

Free Will.
God did not make us robots.



jaimestarcross -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 12:22:37 PM)

Feelings are there for many reasons... the one thing that comes
to mind is maturity... you are guarding your heart
and enjoying the feelings of romantic love.
I like how you included supporting him as he pursues a Godly calling ---
continue being a discerning woman of God and don't hesitate to have another
mature Christian woman to pray with you and to make sure you & him are keeping
proper boundaries in this relationship!



preserved -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 5:05:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sarrah930

I have been dating a man for awhile and I have found myself inlove with him. For whatever reason, these feelings developed quite quickly while I have been fighting to guard my heart and I have not told him how I feel. I feel as though I'm not just "inlove" with him. I love him in every way; as a friend, I do find him attractive, I support him in whatever he is trying to pursue (which is in line with God). I'm surprised because I am giddy when I know I'm going to see him. In my heart I feel he is "the One." My question is, if I am wrong (which I hope I'm not) why would God allow all these feelings in this way? Or is this what is called life? I have done minimal dating but it has been over 10 yrs since I felt this way about someone...Any words of wisdom would be helpful?


God acts that which is from the heart...He is not concern with your emotions...example...When a child does something wrong they start crying thinking that is going to get them out of trouble...tears does not move the parents to prevent them from chasting the child....just the same as with God...These feelings you are having is not God controlling them...it's how you feel deep inside....You are filled with joy because you are in love...Do not get this mixed up with God sending you these feelings...He can send you joy from within your heart...



georgerobbyjr -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/5/2008 11:43:40 PM)

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what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way?


Your emotions have little or nothing to do with God. Many people, christians too, have fallen in love with absolute jerks. Obviously that is not of God. You have free will, you have your own opinions and decide to some extent who you like and dislike. God does not always agree with us and our thoughts / actions are not always justified. I don't think God makes us like anyone, that's up to us and our psyche. That being said, if you like him and he believes then go get him!



deermousie -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/6/2008 10:56:12 AM)

Sarrah, there are all kinds of things that God allows to happen to us. There's a verse that gives us the over-all "why" for everything:

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren.

God's biggest goal is to make you like Jesus.

Wow.

You'd think He would sweep us all under the rug, but He turns sinners into beloved children and heirs of everything thing God has. That's a lot.

Now to answer you specifically: your feeling came on quickly so that's classic infatuation. Nothing wrong with that, but don't mistake it for love. Love takes time and is a commitment to do good (action) to others and isn't dependent on making people feel (feelings) tingly.

So, go down the check list and see if this guy rules himself out as being God's man for you:

- is he a strong Christian? (good name with mature Christians who've known him for several years at least. Deals quickly with sin, biblically with people, is habitually reading his Bible and learning, is involved with some kind of ministry, even if it's talking to people in line at grocery stores or helping in the nursery at church. Not sexually involved with people he's not married to)

- is he available? (not married or in divorce proceedings or such)

- is he in a position financially, emotionally and skills-wise to marry? (conflict resolution, understanding what God expects of husbands, etc.)

If this all checks out, and people who love you and would tell you if they didn't like him think you guys are a good match (it helps if the parents are all for it) then he well could be The One for you. Hurray!

By the way, the checklist applies to you, too, in the female version. Are you good wife and mother material? Are you spiritually mature and ready for marriage? Do you have at least rudementary domestic skills for home and family and are willing to learn more? Do you have a good name with spiritually mature Christians who maybe have known you for years?

If you get green lights on all these things, then it's very possible that this is God's man for you. Pray like crazy, because you'd be happier and better off single than married to the wrong guy. Don't let your feelings rule you; they're just feelings and can change quickly.

God bless you, dear one. I am praying for you. Please let us know how things work out. (((Hugs)))



TorchHeart -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/6/2008 11:45:51 AM)

*groan!*

Instead of asking "why is God making me feel this way," just go for it. If it works, it works. Chances are good that one or both of you will get hurt in the end, but there's always the chance that you won't, and things will work out. And if it does, it'll have been well worth the risk.

Take a chance. Columbus did.



Focusing -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/6/2008 11:47:25 AM)

Being "in love" is a feeling.

Truly loving someone is a choice ... and along with it is an acceptance for all that the other person is, even during the rough and ugly times, standing beside them and being an encourager during difficult life lessons, being there for them even when they make choices you don't agree with (which includes the fallout for bad choices) and helping them pick up the pieces afterwards to continue on, and accepting their past. It only takes a quick glance around the forums to see threads about people who are having a hard time accepting their potential love's past.

Love takes time, so don't rush things.

I agree with what another poster said ... enjoy the ride. It's definitely a nice feeling [:D] ... but give it time to be sure the feelings don't subside.



Luv4self -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/7/2008 5:35:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: deermousie
your feeling came on quickly so that's classic infatuation. Nothing wrong with that, but don't mistake it for love. Love takes time and is a commitment to do good (action) to others and isn't dependent on making people feel (feelings) tingly.

So is it safe to say that people who get married quite quickly, are infactuated and not in love? There are many people in this forum who have gotten married in under 6 mos. Are you saying they weren't inlove?
quote:

ORIGINAL: Focusing
Being "in love" is a feeling.
Truly loving someone is a choice

I don't know if I agree with this one either. There are many people I am sure that wished that they didn't love someone who is not good for them. Isn't more that you can love someone but you can make the choice not to be with them?



redsgrl -> RE: what is the purpose of God letting me feel this way? (8/7/2008 1:46:00 PM)

All I have to say is get before God and get a WORD from Him about the relationship. Ask for God to give you a scripture. When HE speaks to you about it, then you will know how to proceed. Your word that God WILL give to you will be your "roadmap". It will tell you where and what to do. Then, if God speaks to you and tells you that this guy is the one, you won't have hesitate - EVER. When things get tough (and they do), you can look back to that word that GOD gave you and know that you're in the right place because God told you so.

As far as you talking about the "feelings" you have, don't make an important decision based on those feelings. Feelings come and feelings go. The Word of the Lord stands forever!



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