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deermousie -> RE: Help with my mom (8/4/2008 5:09:42 PM)
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Am I understanding you that you want to know what to say that won't make her be passive-aggressive?
That's not something you can do. She makes her choices, and all you can do is make your choices: do what is right. Confess (I did it and it was wrong), repent (I never want to do that again), ask for forgiveness, and your job is over. The rest is up to her, and if she blows it (sins) that's just her. She'll answer to God for it, but God won't want to know why you didn't keep her from doing that. You can't. Don't let her impose on you what God doesn't impose. She isn't greater than God, nor more holy nor moral than God.
It wouldn't hurt for her to know that you feel remorse in giving her trouble. But really, beyond this, she's wringing something out of you that's not hers or it would be in the Bible to do that.
You might contact the credit reporters, explain what happened, and see if that doesn't make a difference. Good grief, it was paid off 2 years ago. So there might be something you can do to help. The free credit counselors in the phone book are just that, and maybe they can advise you.
When your mom starts pushing your buttons, repeat to yourself the truth. So find out now what the truth is, and brace yourself for the coming barage of lies. Tell her the truth, too. She won't like it (or maybe she'll confess and repent, too!) but you are called to do the right thing before God and leave it at that, no matter what others do.
I'm praying for you, dear heart. (((Hugs)))
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