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In addition, I initially gave a promise ring because we were having problems, I wanted to ensure to her that I was sticking around, and want things to work between us. She threw this ring away.

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ORIGINAL: preserved

You need to read his long letter...it more of her insecurities towards him and how she is acting....read the section under southernbellegrits

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I always feel I need to be proving my love to you, and it just doesn’t stop. And yet it’s never enough. You have become a real drain on me, and make me feel as though it’s just never enough, and I just can’t make you happy, therefore I must settle for a life of misery. Why?
• When your friends speak of me, you never stand up for me, instead you agree that I’m an as*hole, what kind of **** is that. I always stand up for you, always!
• Every person in the world expresses their love in their own ways, and it’s up to their partners to be smart enough to analyze their partner and learn their ways of expressing their love, or how they are when their sad, upset, and so forth. For crying out loud, I go out and always try to make things special for you, and romantic. You have even felt sad as to how some of your friends, don’t have the luxury of having a guy like me in their life, and thus must settle. Problem here is why do I need to settle? If I am so good to you, why do you treat me how you do?

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ORIGINAL: jcd777

I appreciate your comments. Some of you may have been misinterpretting the issues I brought up. Please read my clarification message on 7/19 @ 2:40pm.

In addition, I initially gave a promise ring because we were having problems, I wanted to ensure to her that I was sticking around, and want things to work between us. She threw this ring away.

Later, I did engage to her, and gave her an engagement ring.

As to the driving and stuff, keep in mind I had an accident in December of last year, where my femur broke, thus I couldn't drive, and needed to depend on her for this. Hence why those points came up.

Thanks,

jcd

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ORIGINAL: fluffmonkey

I know you had said that you both were trying to stop doing things not pleasing to God, well stop sleeping togther and don't just draw the line at sex, fooling around is sin too...and I know that after you have done things it is hard to stop but you can do it and God will help you through it. Start by finding you a place of your own. Then find a good church to go to, its good place to learn more about God and grow in His word. Both of you need to focus on your relationship with God. before you can focus on the relationship you have with each other. If God is not in your relationship it makes life tough and yes life is tough but when God is in your relationship you can make it through the hard times.

If you really truely want the relationship to work, she must be willing to make it work as well, so if both of you are willing I would get some consouling from a preacher. Other wise you need to let go and move on with your life because the problems and issues will only get worse.


Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:34

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4: 6,7

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam

But I think you have gotten your answer from God . . . you prayed, you fasted: she changed your status from "marriage-bound" to "in a relationship."

And how would you describe that relationship? Abusive, insecure, scarey. Those don't sound like anything that resemble the heart of God.

God did answer you, it just may not be the answer you want to hear.

You are currently in an abusive, insecure and scarey relationship. The Bible says perfect love casts out all fear--and yet you have an abundance of fear. Flee while you can, and draw near to God. Quite frankly, my friend, marriage is a lifetime covenant between you, a spouse and God. It is a vow between you and God. My best advice would be to reconcile with your first wife. Get away from this current woman, repent of your relationship and Live for Him. Go back to the wife of your youth, it may be that God will be gracious and restore what you lost.

God has answered your prayer. Now its time for you to flee this situation before it gets any worste. God has given you a way out. Take it. He will be with you.