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HellHathNoFuryAtAll -> Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (5/29/2008 6:56:50 PM)

I have this gnawing urge to find a woman. I just got out of a BAD relationship and already I want to jump right back in. It seems as though I've made up my mind that I can't be happy alone. Any suggestions?



FurGodWurLivin -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (5/30/2008 3:34:46 AM)

Well......... God created men for women and vice-versa... no pun intended. While there is part of us that longs for a deep relationship such as that, we also need to realize that we will never be able to fill that void without God. So in part, your desire is very valid. However, you will have an easier time filling that desire if you turn it towards God. Just a couple of thoughts.

Adam



HellHathNoFuryAtAll -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (5/30/2008 2:50:04 PM)

I understand that God has his own time and nothing happens unless he wants it to. It's just that I really don't want to be in another relationship until I meet a good Christian woman who wants to get married. I guess I just wish I could turn these feelings off:) I'm lonely but I'm pretty content. I just wish I didn't miss that connection....ya know? Thanks for the input, those were some good points. I appreciate it. I'll just have to wait and see what God has in store for me:)

God Bless



fluffmonkey -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (5/30/2008 4:18:15 PM)

I agree with what Adam said to you.

So when your feeling lonely and are desiring that connection, turn to God. I know its not always the easiest thing to do...(Patience) is hard sometimes but when we lean on God he will guide us threw ^_^



Konstantinos -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (5/31/2008 1:32:17 PM)

because you cant have babies on your own



violinist_for_jesus -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/1/2008 12:10:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Konstantinos

because you cant have babies on your own

lol, Kon, you could be uh, less blunt shall we say?[8D]



song -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/1/2008 1:03:33 AM)

I think it's normal after you've had that kind of connection with someone.

But you just have to make the choice every day to be satisfied with only Jesus even when you don't always "feel" like it. And someday he'll bring the right chick.



Konstantinos -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/1/2008 11:42:53 AM)

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lol, Kon, you could be uh, less blunt shall we say?


i could, but that wouldnt be Kon anymore now would it.

and it simply implied that its natural. its nature.



Jeffery_G -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/1/2008 12:45:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HellHathNoFuryAtAll

I understand that God has his own time and nothing happens unless he wants it to.


In a way, but in a way not. If you are submitted to God's will then nothing has to happen that He doesn't want to happen, but if you think that EVERYTHING that happens in the universe is God's will, you have fallen into the heresy of Hypercalvinism (Christian fatalism). God allows some things to happen that are not His perfect will, because He has created human free will and because the world is fallen, largely controlled by Satan at the present time.

I do believe, however, that if marriage is part of God's Providential plan for your life, then there is ONE special lady that is to be "the one". Many Arminians don't believe in the concept of The One anymore, but I still do.

Jeffery



Cc20 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/4/2008 3:23:19 PM)

Oh I undertsnad that feeling..it's the way God created us, but part of that desire was meant to be for God..as how he intended..but sometimes we humans let it split off from God and it goes to a full on desire for another person..I admit I have felt that way before. I can be reading my Bible trying to get close with the Word, and i get a text from my long distance bf, and immediately drop my Bible and statr a chat session with my bf..[&o] it's like all i want at that moment is to talk with ilkay..nothing else..i'm really trying to work on it, divide my yearnings between bf and God, but it's either focused on one or the other and that usually is my bf..boys can be so distracting...lol[;)]

anyways now that you are NOT in a relationship, it would be a good time to channel that desirous energy toward God, when i was like 18 i didn't have the distraction of a boyfriend, and my faith grew pretty deep towards God! i got the happiness from God then that I get from my bf nowadays..hehe! but something happened and i grew aprt from God, and didn't draw close again til after i met my bf..and i just can't seems to recapture that graceful feeling i had for the Lord before i met my bf.
sorry to ramble so much just had to share my input with the OP of this thread, becoz i know how he feels and all.
God Bless you and hope you can channel these feeling toward God!

cc



NealIRC -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/5/2008 5:23:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FurGodWurLivin

Well......... God created men for women and vice-versa... no pun intended.

Now wait a minute. I thought that in Genesis, God saw that Adam was lonely, and therefore, he created Eve.

Vice versa, would mean God created Adam and Eve at the same time and put them in separate gardens, and saw they were both lonely, then put them in 1.

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While there is part of us that longs for a deep relationship such as that, we also need to realize that we will never be able to fill that void without God.

Oh really? Some of us are just fine with a non-deep relationship with that without God.

In fact, human relationship and God relationship I find to be incompatible. You could argue that only a human relationship ain't enough, and that we also need a separate relationship with God, but I don't see how you could argue your human relationship needs to be a 3-some with God.

2 separate relationships is not the same as 1 separate 3-some relationship.



FurGodWurLivin -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/8/2008 4:54:15 AM)

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Now wait a minute. I thought that in Genesis, God saw that Adam was lonely, and therefore, he created Eve.

Vice versa, would mean God created Adam and Eve at the same time and put them in separate gardens, and saw they were both lonely, then put them in 1.
Actually not. God created Adam to commune with God and saw that it was not good for Man to be alone. That is the only time during the creative process that God declares something not good. That means that it is not how God intended. I think God intended to make Eve the whole time... He was not surprised or taken aback by man's feeling lonely. I entirely believe that God created men for women as much as the reverse is true. Why? Because God chose to create women by taking a chunk of flesh from the side of man... meaning if God didn't create the man, He didn't create the woman either.
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Oh really? Some of us are just fine with a non-deep relationship with that without God.

In fact, human relationship and God relationship I find to be incompatible. You could argue that only a human relationship ain't enough, and that we also need a separate relationship with God, but I don't see how you could argue your human relationship needs to be a 3-some with God.

2 separate relationships is not the same as 1 separate 3-some relationship.
I'm more of a mind that without being in the context of one, the other is not true either. I don't actually have a relationship with someone unless I can share my relationship with God with them. Without being in the context of a tight-knit group of people who are all in community with one another and sharing common values my relationship with God suffers as well. My relationship with God is an enabler for my relationships with people, and my relationship with people should cause me to love God more. That is why I can say with certainty that I have no real friends at my secular job. Rather than defining Human relationship and Mystical relationship as incompatible, I define them as blending together to form my well-adjusted social life. That's actually part of why the Bible made such a point of telling believers not to be "unequally yoked" to unbelievers. Hope that makes sense.

Adam



NealIRC -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/8/2008 3:54:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FurGodWurLivin

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Now wait a minute. I thought that in Genesis, God saw that Adam was lonely, and therefore, he created Eve.

Vice versa, would mean God created Adam and Eve at the same time and put them in separate gardens, and saw they were both lonely, then put them in 1.
Actually not. God created Adam to commune with God and saw that it was not good for Man to be alone. That is the only time during the creative process that God declares something not good. That means that it is not how God intended. I think God intended to make Eve the whole time... He was not surprised or taken aback by man's feeling lonely. I entirely believe that God created men for women as much as the reverse is true. Why? Because God chose to create women by taking a chunk of flesh from the side of man... meaning if God didn't create the man, He didn't create the woman either.

Now here's another theory. The other theory goes God created women so humans can reproduce. Not so much because he was lonely - but that the human race could continue. If Adam was happy and was just fine being lonely - would God still have a moral obligation or will to create Eve?

Heh.

Neal C.



FurGodWurLivin -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/9/2008 5:34:13 AM)

The problem, Neal, is that God said "it is not good for man to be alone" and not "it is not good that man cannot reproduce." I think rather than thinking about the theoretical, we need to believe what we can find in the text, and the text says it isn't good to be alone. To be sure, I don't agree with Clarke when he makes the claim that this is preaching against the idea of celibacy (partcularly because Paul advocated it in his letter to the Corinthians), but I think Clarke makes a couple of very good points on this verse. God creates man, and then promptly says it isn't good that this one is alone... so he creates one like him. Seems pretty solid to me.

Adam



BethyHerself -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/9/2008 11:31:37 AM)

It's not good for man to be alone, but at the same time I've seen God use the time of solitude to make men better and draw them closer to Him. I was told once that if God placed the desire to be married in my heart that He will fill it. He gives us the desires of our heart, but that doesn't mean we can selfishly say "I want this, NOW" and He'll bend over backwards to give it to us.

I've wanted to be married since I was eleven, and now ten years and eight potential guys later I'm still single with no real prospects. That doesn't make me doubt God's goodness to me, because marriage is not the pinnacle of happiness. You don't need a woman to be happy, you need God to be happy. And He might not give you a woman while you are allowing that dream to take His place of fulfillment in your life.

To quote Cool Runnings, "If you aren't enough without it, you will never be enough with it." Marriage won't make you any fuller than singleness, only God fills.



Amy_mk1615 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/9/2008 1:07:53 PM)

I have been feeling the same way.... I want to be married but i als know that the Lord will bring that special person into my life when the time is right.. But bn patient isnt easy...LOL



NealIRC -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/9/2008 1:25:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FurGodWurLivin

The problem, Neal, is that God said "it is not good for man to be alone" and not "it is not good that man cannot reproduce."

But this argument fails. If God didn't want man to be alone (or Adam), he could have instead created another man. It wouldn't have mattered if he created another man to comfort Adam's or man's loneliness. If God created Eve to cure his loneliness, then it would have been a coincidence that they reproduced. Loneliness doesn't apply to people with other people of the same gender.

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I think rather than thinking about the theoretical, we need to believe what we can find in the text, and the text says it isn't good to be alone. To be sure, I don't agree with Clarke when he makes the claim that this is preaching against the idea of celibacy (partcularly because Paul advocated it in his letter to the Corinthians), but I think Clarke makes a couple of very good points on this verse. God creates man, and then promptly says it isn't good that this one is alone... so he creates one like him. Seems pretty solid to me.



Cc20 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/11/2008 8:51:44 PM)

Indeed^
he also created female versions of all other creatures and why do you think he did that? hahaha it's only sensible for god to create a female person too..so they can be fruitful and multiply!!!![;)] as well as keep each other company



cammo2006 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (6/12/2008 6:50:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: NealIRC

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ORIGINAL: FurGodWurLivin

The problem, Neal, is that God said "it is not good for man to be alone" and not "it is not good that man cannot reproduce."

But this argument fails. If God didn't want man to be alone (or Adam), he could have instead created another man. It wouldn't have mattered if he created another man to comfort Adam's or man's loneliness. If God created Eve to cure his loneliness, then it would have been a coincidence that they reproduced. Loneliness doesn't apply to people with other people of the same gender.

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I think rather than thinking about the theoretical, we need to believe what we can find in the text, and the text says it isn't good to be alone. To be sure, I don't agree with Clarke when he makes the claim that this is preaching against the idea of celibacy (partcularly because Paul advocated it in his letter to the Corinthians), but I think Clarke makes a couple of very good points on this verse. God creates man, and then promptly says it isn't good that this one is alone... so he creates one like him. Seems pretty solid to me.



Perhaps alone was intended in the sense of having a family being not being alone?

I don't know, just a thought.



beachcooky -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/12/2008 2:22:27 AM)

whyy, hello [:

it's normal to feel lonely. i mean, it's human nature. we have all felt lonely at some point in my life.
I, too, broke up with my boyfriend and I'm lonely. But I've come a long ways and I realized that a guy cannot make me happy. It's ultimately up to you to be happy or not. For me, I hang out with friends. I do things that I enjoy. And I become happy. Like, you don't need anyone to make you happy. It is up to you to become happy.

You need to be happy in your life in order to be in a relationship. You can't depend on another person to make you happy, because they will let you down at some points in your life.

Do you get what I'm saying? I don't think I'm explaining it that well...[sm=unsure.gif]



manunitedfan08 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/13/2008 3:17:44 PM)

It makes sense to me....it is something I am coming to realize myself. After really having my heart broken in a relationship/close friendship...I really can relate to what your saying about how you cant depend on someone else for happiness...b/c inevitability you will be let down. Its just too bad I had to find out in the worse way possible b/c i kinda went to pieces over such things..:( However, I have come to realize that I need to find happiness in other ways.



beachcooky -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/13/2008 3:50:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: manunitedfan08

It makes sense to me....it is something I am coming to realize myself. After really having my heart broken in a relationship/close friendship...I really can relate to what your saying about how you cant depend on someone else for happiness...b/c inevitability you will be let down. Its just too bad I had to find out in the worse way possible b/c i kinda went to pieces over such things..:( However, I have come to realize that I need to find happiness in other ways.


Yeah. I mean, Jesus can be a big part of it too. But it's up to us to work towards our happiness. God's not going to do all the work by himself.



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/13/2008 3:54:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: beachcooky

But I've come a long ways and I realized that a guy cannot make me happy.


I love knowing that I have the ability to make my girlfriend absolutely giddy.

But no amount of happiness she can receive from myself, it could never compare to what Christ offers. I would much rather her be filled consumingly with Christ than the temporal happiness I have to offer her.

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It's ultimately up to you to be happy or not.


That happiness is based off whether or not you have a relationship with Christ.

Sure, the world is happy in their sin, but before it's all over, it shall end, and that temporal happiness will be gone and they no longer would have the chance for eternal happiness.



beachcooky -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/13/2008 3:56:36 PM)

Yeah. I agree with that statement. It's good you have a good head on your shoulders :)
And yes, when I was saying that statement, I was talking about Christians.
Now if people aren't Christians, it's still up to them to be happy. But God can't really help them. Or whatever. haha.



manunitedfan08 -> RE: Why do I feel like I need a woman to be happy? (7/13/2008 4:52:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: beachcooky

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ORIGINAL: manunitedfan08

It makes sense to me....it is something I am coming to realize myself. After really having my heart broken in a relationship/close friendship...I really can relate to what your saying about how you cant depend on someone else for happiness...b/c inevitability you will be let down. Its just too bad I had to find out in the worse way possible b/c i kinda went to pieces over such things..:( However, I have come to realize that I need to find happiness in other ways.


Yeah. I mean, Jesus can be a big part of it too. But it's up to us to work towards our happiness. God's not going to do all the work by himself.


Yup I totally agree that I cant just sit back wait for happiness to come my way....I have to do some work on my own...or am I wrong?



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