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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 11/23/2007 6:51:59 PM
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littlelionofJudah
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This is my only advice to give to a fellow brother,for this has worked for me in any topic containing lust,pornography,fornication,or dealing with wives, or women in general.
Take every thought captive
Remember every woman you know or meet,your mother,sister,girlfriend,wife or stanger is GOD'S daughter.
Try and wrap your mind around that,how horrible it is to fall into the hands of an angry GOD { FATHER }
Treat his daughters right he is happy,so is she and so are you
Treat her wrong,He is mad,so is she,and you will be sad.
It is better to have a millstone tied around your neck and be cast into the sea than to hurt ONE of His little ones
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 11/24/2007 1:17:37 AM
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In my personal experience I was just like you, someone who couldnt stop looking at porn even though I wanted too and had promised that I would stop. Because of a near death experience from doing drugs (and many unpleasant effects for a month or so after the near death experience) It really made me get serious about my life, I realized that if I were to die today, I wasnt as serious about God and as saved as I thought I was. I began to dedicate my life 100% to Jesus, and ironically enough, I no longer got the desires to look at pornography. Except I had another problem. All of the images were still inside my head, and even though I did not want them their it seemed like the devil was bombarding me with those images and perverted thoughts, some thoughts so perverted that it led me to believe that I would end up in Hell just for thinking them. I believe the devil also led me to the scripture Matthew 12:31-32 about the unpardonable sin, and I had thoughts about blaspheming the Holy spirit. I had to go to a number of pastors just to get them to convince me that I had not committed it. The devil dosent reveal all of those images you have in your head untill the time is right for him I believe. He can use it as a weapon against you, and tell you right now that you need more of it, when even one is too many. When the person finally comes to God and totally changes their life style their desire for porn goes away. The devil can make you miserable with your past. The people on this post gave some really good suggestions on how to stop. Make sure you are really saved, and totally trust in God. Once you begin to trust in him and dedicate your life to him completely, you will realize how sinful and how unholy you are. I dont think you realize that now. After you manage to stop looking at porn and truly become saved, you need to renew your mind. A good cheap book on this is called "Conquest of the mind" By Elbert Willis.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 12/1/2007 2:28:52 PM
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Make this page your homepage and it will be one more step towards freedom on the internet.
http://mychristianhomepage.blogspot.com/
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 12/17/2007 3:02:49 PM
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Hello thelosttraverler
How does a guy stop looking at porn? He turns the other way, runs to God and "cozies" up to Him.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 12/17/2007 3:06:27 PM
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I'm not sure if this has been mentioned before, but there is a ministry which deals with just that. Go to xxxchurch.com (sounds bad, I know. Trust me). They are a ministry which distributes Bibles and such to porn shows and tries to spread the Word to that community. They also have a link on their site to software which will help you quit the porn addiction.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/1/2008 6:26:26 AM
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A lot of people who enjoy pornography, do so because they have several fundamental misunderstandings about what is going on with what they are seeing.
First of all, they delude themselves into thinking they don't have control. We perpetuate this in Christianity to some extent by teaching that we are slaves to sin, which is not completely true. People can, and do, overcome temptation all the time, and contrary to what we fatalistically teach, overcoming a specific sin is often a matter of choice more than anything else. (It is the past sins we cannot control.) Christ will not force you to do something you do not want to do. He will not physically control you, or prevent you from sinning. The power to defeat your sin has to come from within - and that is where Christ does his greatest work. The person who is overcome with lust often feels that he is helpess to his sin, but Christ gives us hope that, with perseverence, we can succeed.
Second, we mistakenly assume that what we are seeing is sexual. This is harder to understand since it is clearly intended to be sexual, but it actually isn't. You get no physiological reward from looking at nudity, it is purely within your mind. Moreover, your mind is attributing significance to the image which is, to put it bluntly, 'fantastic.' The naked person does not know you. They do not care about you. It has absolutely no significance to you whatsoever. The mind tricks you into thinking that the naked person has something to do with you, has some personal reward for you, but it doesn't. You fool yourself into thinking that the naked person is an opportunity for sex, when it is merely a lie.
Third, we absent mindedly attribute meaning to sexuality when we see it. We think that the person we are seeing is enjoying the sexuality shared in delusion #2, that they are there for our benefit. We create an almost personal relationship with the object. In essence, we trick ourselves into thinking that we are actually having sex with a willing partner. This is not true. Actually, the opposite is closer to true. It's completely empty and devoid of meaning. Not only is it sexuality exploitative, it is exploitative to both you, and to the person you are seeing.
You can run away from the problem. This is a completely valid way to handle it. Flee temptation, as you have been instructed. Another way, if you cannot avoid temptation, is to alter the way you see the images.
1) You need to assert some self control or else the entire endeavor is already failed. It's okay to slip up. Everyone will forgive you because everyone understands temptation. Actually, it 'inspires' us to see somebody willingly trying to improve themselves, even if they are struggling, so no matter how 'weak' you think you are, take solace in the fact that you are trying to make yourself stronger - that is the best anyone can do.
2) You need to recognize that naked people are simply naked people. Everyone is naked under their clothes. This is neither abnormal nor inherently sexual. Think: Medicine. If you see an injured or sick person who also happens to be naked, it is not even remotely sexual. Why? Because your sexual 'fascination' is overwhelmed by concern for the person. - This is important, because it shows that you care more about the person than as a mere object of sexual gratification. Try considering people in that light by default, by assuming they are injured. Most people are, and never admit it. Christ understood this.
3) You have to look at what you are seeing in a spiritual context, and this is probably the hardest part. The person you are seeing, exploiting themself in a sexual manner, is not doing it for you. Actually, in this day & age, the chances are pretty good that they aren't enjoying it and\or have no idea that they are about to be broadcast onto the internet. Most likely the sexuality being displayed was aquired by exploiting the person involved either by paying them (exploiting their poverty) or by manipulating them (exploiting their naieve ignorance). Neither of these cases are moral or clean. There is no love, and no meaning. It's completely empty and devoid of 'value'. This person was a child once. They have the exact same emotions and feelings as a child does, but they are being taken advantage of in a very immoral way.
When you realize this, the entire franchise suddenly no longer has an air of 'forbidden mischief' about it. It instead feels dirty and evil, the way you feel watching a violent assault - and that is much closer to the truth. Try to remember that Christ treated everyone as if they were hurt children.. And when you think about it, that's all an adult ever becomes. There is no time for, or thought of sexuality in that context. If you can separate yourself from the fascination and give the whole scene a clinical, critical glance, you'll see that most of the things which were sexually charged and 'exciting' before are actually tragic and lamentable, even to the point of tears. If you have somebody to share your life with, you should focus instead on appreciating them. Not everyone finds someone to love who loves them back, and having a legitimate opportunity to enjoy the beauty of another human - body, mind, and soul - in a clean and moral context is far superior to any counterfeit attempts you will find being perpetuated on the black market.. It's not even comperable.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/2/2008 10:04:50 PM
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Alamar
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My Dear Friends,
From my personal experience: how do you stop looking at porn???
Very simple! Couple of times I was at the Promise Keepers and always there were praying about pron addiction among men. How come that 50 y/o married man can be addictive to pornography? My simple answer: not enough sex in his marriage! Check 1 Cor.7"" Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. Let YOUR wife knows this!
Maybe also your wife doesn't care to be sexually attractive to you? Talk to her about it.
thanks for reading
Alamar
sorry for my grammar: English is and always will be my second language
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/3/2008 7:49:46 AM
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DaveW
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Alamar
How come that 50 y/o married man can be addictive to pornography? My simple answer: not enough sex in his marriage! "For every complex problem there is a simple solution: Usually wrong."
There are men (perhaps women too) that have a lot of sex but still are hooked on porn. There are others who have almost no sex at all that do not resort to porn for relief. While I am sure your evaluation is true for some, it is not the case for many, perhaps most porn addicts.
Each case must be looked at individually.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/4/2008 7:06:25 PM
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Alamar
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Dear DaveW - the Super Member
Of course this is " is not the case for many" especially unmarried and single but looking closely at 1 Corinthian 7 you will find that this applies for EVERY man on Earth. And this is - quote" simple solution for complex problem" unless of course, you don't agree with Apostle Paul.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/22/2008 10:59:37 AM
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WOW! It's amazing how many people go through the same "troubles" as yourself. This is one problem than I am currently dealing with. And I didn't read all the responses, but the ones I did really helped. Thank you Lost for starting this thread, it really helped me out. I cannot completely gid rid of my computer, since I need it for my job....but I can limit what I can view. This is my first day on this board and I found exactly what I was looking for....Thank you all again!!
For all things are possible.....
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/23/2008 11:47:24 PM
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quote:
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Dear DaveW - the Super Member
Of course this is " is not the case for many" especially unmarried and single but looking closely at 1 Corinthian 7 you will find that this applies for EVERY man on Earth. And this is - quote" simple solution for complex problem" unless of course, you don't agree with Apostle Paul.
sincerely
Alamar
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Alamar,
I think you're misunderstanding some things. "Supermember" is something put on by the forum. It's based on how many posts you've made. Also, Paul was speaking of not withholding sex from your spouse so they don't sin. He never said that would always or usually be the cause of it. People have a free will. They can choose to look at porn or not. I've struggled with it in the past, even when my wife and I were intimate 4 to 5 times a week. Had nothing to do with that. It's called a sin nature. We struggle with the flesh. The key is, as Paul also wrote, to make no provision for the flesh. In other words, get away from the temptation.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/24/2008 12:26:01 AM
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Paul was speaking of not withholding sex from your spouse so they don't sin.
Thats not true.
"Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that." (1 Corinthians 7:5-7)
The message in (1 Corinthians Chapter 7) is that it applies to all married couples. That sex should be done with mutual consent but that marriage is not about sex. Rather, sex was a gift from God to be sanctified in marriage. Marriage, according to (1 Corinthians 7) was meant for a devotion to prayer, fellowship, self-control, and obedience to God.
< Message edited by Bibleman7 -- 1/24/2008 9:42:41 PM >
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/24/2008 11:22:00 PM
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quote:
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original: bigboytenor
Paul was speaking of not withholding sex from your spouse so they don't sin.
Thats not true.
"Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that." (1 Corinthians 7:5-7)
The message in (1 Corinthians Chapter 7) is that it applies to all married couples. That sex should be done with mutual consent but that marriage is not about sex. Rather, sex was a gift from God to be sanctified in marriage. Marriage, according to (1 Corinthians 7) was meant for a devotion to prayer, fellowship, self-control, and obedience to God.
Good call Bibleman7. I was in a hurry and my tongue slipped over my eye teeth and I couldn't see what I was typing. Thanks for clearing up my mess of a post.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/25/2008 10:28:55 AM
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I have found that the more difficult you make it to actually view porn the less likely that you'll pursue it. It may have already been discussed in this thread, however, setting up a strict password system where you use a phrase that brings you back to reality such as "Jesus Saves" or something like that provides a roadblock that you will not want to cross.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 1/31/2008 7:26:19 PM
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bigboytenor
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quote:
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I have found that the more difficult you make it to actually view porn the less likely that you'll pursue it. It may have already been discussed in this thread, however, setting up a strict password system where you use a phrase that brings you back to reality such as "Jesus Saves" or something like that provides a roadblock that you will not want to cross.
Right on, brother. I've found that the more I speak and read the name of Jesus Christ, the stronger I see His hand leading me in times of temptation.
To the OP, 1 Corinthians 10:13 man. Jesus is "the way of escape." Look to Him when you're tempted and He will never fail you.
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RE: how do i stop looking - 2/6/2008 10:35:46 PM
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My best advice is only an echo of everyone else's here really - only God can gives us what we really need. I love what CS Lewis said about all these kinds of things:
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If you asked twenty good men today what they thought the highest of the virtues, nineteen of them would reply, Unselfishness. But if you had asked almost any of the great Christians of old, he would have replied, Love. You see what has happened? A negative term has been substituted for a positive, and this is of more than philological importance. The negative idea of Unselfishness carries with it the suggestion not primarily of securing good things for others, but of going without them ourselves, as if our abstinence and not their happiness was the important point. I do not think this is the Christian virtue of Love. The New Testament has lots to say about self-denial, but not about self-denial as an end in itself. We are told to deny ourselves and to take up our crosses in order that we may follow Christ; and nearly every description of what we shall ultimately find if we do so contains an appeal to desire. If there lurks in most modern minds the notion that to desire our own good and earnestly to hope for the enjoyment of it is a bad thing, I submit that this notion has crept in from Kant and the Stoics and is no part of the Christian faith. Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased. CS Lewis, The Weight of Glory.
But knowing this and doing something about are two very different issues. I still go around the cycle on this issue, just a lot less than I ever have before. In fact I must confess that I looked at porn the other night - I just blocked all reason out of my mind and chose to take the sugar-coated-cyanide we call porn. I think mainly because I had blocked God out for a few days so I became vulnerable. I know what the battle is like too! So I'm dusting myself off, praying penitently for forgiveness & mercy, and trying to live purely again, but most importantly returning to God because the world's best porn & women can't supply what I need - a lesson I've learnt yet again - I can only get it from God.
I pray your battle goes well - please pray for mine.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 2/7/2008 12:57:52 AM
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CONFESSION
Lately things have been rough for me, and I have been attacked by Satan and his demons and LIFE in general at all sides. This week has been rough and isn't over and when it ends, another one will start.
I've been consumed with anxiety, and fear lately and there is one calming factor, PORNOGRAPHY. One my problems started back in December of last year, I thought about it, I thought about going back into it deeper and heavier than ever before, even going to a strip club for the first time in my life.
I didn't go back. One night I struggled like a hurricane, just tossing and turning in bed, praying and shaking and I didn't give in. GOD be thanked, not I. Then lately things got bad, and I got so upset, that I turned on the TV and scrolled porn titles, intent of getting my pleasure on.
Well I didn't order any porn. Then a realization happened, the last time I looked at porn, I felt even more shame and anger than I did pleasure. I didn't enjoy it, I don't think porn would do for me what it would do for me and I only see a strip club or something the like fulfilling those needs.
Then I realized something, that it wouldn't help me either, I saw in my mind me crying like a baby coming home from that place, and I never went and I am glad.
Porn and strip clubs and sexual lust, can't help me now, even when things get real evil, it couldn't and won't help me. When GOD is silent and Satan is loud, you have to keep on believing in the silence in the darkness in the pain. You have to keep going, that is the only thing that matters.
I encourage my brothers and sisters, porn isn't an answer, sexual sins aren't thee answer, JESUS is the answer and as long as our heart keeps beating, we gotta keep on going knowing that one day, in heaven, we will never be in darkness and silence again.
I prayed thee other night, and GOD spoke to me, this verse.
Ro 8:39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Life is rough, and it isn't fair, and it isn't good many times, so enjoy the good times, they are not guarenteed, but GOD is there with us, even in the silence and darkness.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 2/18/2008 2:48:52 PM
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Amen. Just last week, I'm a avid sports enthusaists and I get Sports Illustrated. I didn't realize that that came with the swimsuit edition that comes from time to time. There was a battle with my flesh however thank God I threw it away within a few minutes and told my wife of my struggle. I hate that I have battles like this and I wish it would go away. I thank God for His grace especially in this area in my life! BlackCapn hold on if you have to find another brother you can confide in, who's not judgemental who you can be accountable to and will hold you accountable. Whether the church wants to hide this or not this is a real issue and we need to provide real answers and not be condescending.
If anyone needs a compassionate ear you can always call me.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn (you can overcome this) - 6/23/2008 2:00:55 PM
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There are better ways
Sometimes beginning aren't so simple. Same cycle of..
You could break your computer, you could make a promise for the 100th time or repent countless times, you could even fast and yet..
Friends please try to understand..the beat to way to break a habit its to Kill the Flesh ( well we are fallen beings you can't really kill sin another word Flesh but you can keep it in under control)
Here is a web site where they explained how flesh.. So i don't need say much about the Felsh
http://www.joshharris.com/2007/02/feeding_the_flesh.phporks
( you can copy and paste the link). See if your flesh is well feed..when you are being tempted see what happends is your not only aginst the tempter but also you are aginst your own human nature( flesh that is)..So its highly unlikely that will resist and overcome ..
Do not try to fight aginst the temptation..instead flee from it. The more you try to wrestle with temptation the more it gets hold of you and eventually you will give in..Anywho i'll try to explain how not to feed the flesh..
It takes about 40 days to break a habit,so take one day at a time, after 60-75 days you won't even be tempted by these things..Do not masturbate for 40 days ( trust me on this one), Lets say you are in a shopping mall and at the counter bathing suits magazine caught your gaze..or walking down the street you see a acctrative women ..that point all the alarm and red flags go off in your mind..but always remember the first stare is free..but its the second or third one..that get you to ..
So make sure that you do not gaze back for the second time, and thats how you flee from the temptation..(Same goes for the women..)
now then lets focus on the internet..When ever you are surffing on the net probably you will see..a pop up that has a pitcure of an woman in bikini..and that can trigger the temptation..so once aging you would have a to flee..just get away from the computer ...take a walk outside or talk to some one..that way you can get that temptation out of your mind. (if you are really in a hole then I’d suggest you’d cancel your internet..you can use the computer at the library when you need it) you have guard your eyes, ears. Make sure withdraw yourself or distance yourself from magazine or movies (it doesn’t even have to be pure porn , it could be about girls wearing short skirt ect..). You mustn’t let the entertain those thoughts of temptation..many times we win the battle against the lust by guarding our eyes..by guarding our ears..our body. But we lose the battle in our thoughts..when we let those tempting thoughts go on..in our imaginations..thats when we give in. Here is an example say you are on a super market walking the by pastry section, you see a cheese cake but you know you should stay away from it ..so you are telling you self no I’ll not give in so you’d take your eyes off and keep on walking while you are walking away..those thoughts are popping up in your mind..that cheese cake it would taste so good with some chocolate glaze on the top, it looked so creamy ect.., that point you’re experiencing the taste of that cheese cake without even looking at it. So this is how you’d lose the battle in your mind..so must try to stop those thoughts..you can do that by not fantasizing ..it may not be as easy in first 20 days but you can bear it. Lord will help you every step of the way..
Friends..Above all Lord himself can deliver you..the truth is self, when you know the truth, it makes a big difference..the tempter only care about stealing..and distroying..so when you are being tempted..you will hear a voice..that will probably say.." do it just this once after today you can quit..do it for the last time..you know you want it" but truth if you give in at that time..you'd only be feeding your flesh..and keeping it alive..another truth is that no matter what temptation is the answer is always NO, Now then if you have your flesh under control..and you know what the tempter is all about...you can break the habit..
We all have our weak moments (that’s when you should just pray the simple two little word Lord help..when you are in public pray it in your spirit and He WILL..he always does) Trust me in time those images will dissolved from your mind it will not pop up in your thoughts..also you should get one of those porn blocker and let someone else set the password that way you can’t uninstall it when you are being tempted,
Now lets focus on Trusting God to do the rest..while you are doing your part..thats because its almost imposible to break free on your own..
And of course..God always gives a way out when you are tempted (don't believe me.. its written in bible) so pray to Lord he will show you the way.. While you are taking one day at a time..do not worry about tomorrow. You might be thinking oh no what if I get tempted tomorrow..what if I end up giving in to sin again..Lord said “do not worry about tomorrow, tomorrow has its own worries. So leave your tomorrow to Lord, and HEY never forget to ask LORD HELP when you are in mist of a temptation. Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden on the Lord [releasing the weight of it] and He will sustain you; He will never allow the [consistently] righteous to be moved (made to slip, fall, or fail)
This verse means that no matter what the situation is in your life..you can lean on the lord knowing that he will not let you fall or fail. You can meditate in this verse daily..and try to leave all your burdens, worries and fears just throw everything on him by prayer. It’s a process and this will difenatly help you to grow your faith in God.
time to wrap it up..well not sure i did very good job making sense..but i hope my comments helps.. (advent_child_ff7@yahoo.com)
P.S
Just go to yahoo and type (how to kill flesh or sins) there are many sites that can be helpful.
Goodluck.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 6/23/2008 3:45:24 PM
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Lost Traveler,
I too am struggling with porn. I have found this site http://settingcaptivesfree.com a big help in this area. It is an everyday struggle, and one you are owning up to, which is a start. When my focus is stayed on the Lord, He gives me the strength to beat back the temptations, but when I let my mind wonder, and let things get in the way, when my focus is off of Him, I tend to slip and fall. Check out the site if you have not already and good luck in your battle.
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Romans 5:8
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 6/23/2008 5:48:46 PM
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First, let me say that I signed up just to post in this thread. I've been lurking for several weeks, but I've just been reading.
I decided to check out this post mainly to see what everyone else has said and then noticed that it was started quite a long time ago, but this is a prevalent issue with men.
I just re-read a book that is very specific and greatly helpful when dealing with this topic. It is called "Every Man's Battle." It discusses how we can deal with these issues and is quite practical for any man that truly wants to win the war over sexual impurity.
Also, I setup an account at OpenDNS which is a customizable dns server that you can use to block adult sites from even opening on your computer. I like to use the StumbleUpon toolbar and this keeps me away from most all sites that I would find offensive or detrimental to my walk (not all, but most). This also will help keep my kids from getting to sites that they shouldn't and doesn't have a software install.
These tools are proving very beneficial to me and God bless all of you struggling with this aspect of your life to win this war. Thanks for reading. :)
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 6/25/2008 8:29:01 PM
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ORIGINAL: thelosttraverler
Hey look, i've been looking for a long time. ive said i would quit many times but i have failed. please what do i do. i nammed myself the lost traveler for a reason. i need the lord but i cant stop my self from looking. i know their is somthing God has for me to do, but because of this pproblom i cant do it. please help me get through this war against saiten, im fighting a lost war on my own...
Thanks
the lost traveler
Moderators note:
This thread originated in marriage, so there will be a few posts from women prior to it being moved.
Hey bro',I feel ya'!BOOK:'Every man's battle'/WEBSITE:'Settingcaptivesfree.com'. Dude,ya gotta make the choice(sounds like you have),and ya gotta be diligent in the battle. AND,YOU HAVE TO DO IT FOR THE GLORY OF GOD,NOT for your own peace of mind.The website will turn you on to a GOOD internet filter,check them out.You can also use 'B-Safe' internet filter.God bless,buddy!It's ONLY by His grace!
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RE: how do i stop looking at porn PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! - 7/28/2008 3:54:45 AM
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The world is tanking. I think that is why satan is working on us so hard. I have been reading these posts and you are all bright people, i dont see any sign that you all cant overcome this and feel joy one day. I sure hope i can, its been ages for me since i have seen joy in my self, I just hope i am ready when i am needed. I think you all will be...
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Dude,you couldn't be any farther from the truth!Why do we want a new car,when the one we have is doing fine and still looks good?Why do we want the latest fashion,or the 'coolest' new stuff?The answer:LUST,pure and simple.The lusts of the flesh are multitude.Do you over-eat or over-order at the restaurant(the latter resulting in a meal's worth of food being thrown in the trash)?This is lust also!Lust is NEVER fulfilled,read your Bible!