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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/29/2008 4:53:11 PM
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John_O
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DOND: opposite political party?
No deal. I firmly believe that the opposite political party holds several severely anti-biblical positions. So much so that I try restrict contact with people of that party.
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DOND: They like shopping for furniture, even if they don't buy pieces.
Deal. I love furniture shopping. Really love antique furniture shopping (Those crowded aisles make for good places for a quick cuddle!)
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DOND: They regularly go to the bookstore and read books there for hours on end but never buy anything.
Probably no deal. I have no problem with reading the books, but pay for them first. Reading without paying at a bookstore is too much like theft for me. Now at a library is entirely different.
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Deal or no deal: Wants routine scheduled intimate moments (e.g. Thursday at 7:30p, Saturday 11:15p, Monday 6:30 a.m)
Deal. Spontaneity* is good but certainty has it's own special charm too.
* Found a typo in Websters. They spelled this word without the first "n". They include the "n" in every other use including the phonetic of this word! Shouldn't there be a prize or something for that?
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DOND: They prefer to read the book before seeing the movie.
Deal. As long as they don't comment during the movie "That wasn't in the book" or some such.
DOND: They go quiet every once in a while. Nothing is wrong between you, and they tell you so, they just go quiet.
(BTW, That's a deal for me. I can do quiet)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/29/2008 5:03:10 PM
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DOND: They go quiet every once in a while. Nothing is wrong between you, and they tell you so, they just go quiet.
I'd say deal on that one. I can go quiet sometimes as well.
DOND: They start major home improvment projects that they never finish.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/29/2008 9:37:35 PM
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DOND: They prefer to read the book before seeing the movie.
Deal, books are much better than movies.
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DOND: They go quiet every once in a while. Nothing is wrong between you, and they tell you so, they just go quiet.
Deal if it's not for hours every day and if they don't mind me double/triple checking that everything is alright.
(Sorry if this repeats anyone, only read about two-thirds the thread)
DOND: Must have dinner food fancily arranged on each plate no matter which one of you cooks that night.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/29/2008 9:53:45 PM
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DOND: Must have dinner food fancily arranged on each plate no matter which one of you cooks that night.
Deal. I'll just remember to pick up some parsley or herbs from the store - or whatever other kind of garnish is needed - have some very nice plates - maybe even regularly cook little sauces that I can freeze and thaw that can be added to dress up the dish and we are in business.
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DOND: opposite political party?
This depends. If they believe that their party is the only christian point of view then absolutely no deal. (I believe that the true christian point of view is fragmented and scattered between both major parties - and I'm longing for a 3rd party that will more adequately reflect my views.) If they have a party preference, but recognize that their party doesn't always support biblical positions on matters, then yes - I can work with that.
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DOND: They regularly go to the bookstore and read books there for hours on end but never buy anything.
I don't know. I don't have a problem with going to the bookstore and looking up information - I did that when I worked in IT - the library was always at least a year behind when it came to technical manuals and I couldn't always find the answers online. But I definitely bought books that I felt were worth the money - that I'd look at time and again - because it just seemed fair - even if I didn't buy it from Border's or Barnes and Noble - I tried to get it from bookpool or amazon or somewhere where I could find a good price.
DOND: The person likes you but isn't "into" you - he/she isn't smitten with you.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/31/2008 4:25:34 PM
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DOND: They start major home improvment projects that they never finish.
Deal. I'm the one in charge of finishing projects. Hopefully though she'll ask me before she starts so I can have all the proper tools/supplies on hand.
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DOND: Must have dinner food fancily arranged on each plate no matter which one of you cooks that night.
Deal. But how many ways can you fancily arrange macaroni and cheese or tuna helper?
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DOND: The person likes you but isn't "into" you - he/she isn't smitten with you.
That one's a defer. We'd have to defer the DOND decsion until I become sure she'd never become smitten with me.
DOND: They tend to make very quick decisions.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 7/31/2008 4:36:06 PM
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DOND: They tend to make very quick decisions.
DEAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i used to be indecisive or second guess myself frequently, not a good trait. i do sometimes too but try not to as much. there is a time and place for some matters that require prayer (maybe even fasting) and communication ... and a time when its the specifics bog people down. ie) this blog describes the author having already decided to buy a desk but wasnt sure what to do. the approach he describes is helpful.
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-make-smart-decisions-in-less-than-60-seconds/
DOND: they refuse to eat your favorite food (just curious if i need to learn to like czcake or not)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/6/2008 2:30:54 PM
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DOND: they refuse to eat your favorite food (just curious if i need to learn to like czcake or not)
Deal. More left for me. As ong as they don't mind when I eat it.
DOND: They do not want you to be in ministry leadership (Such as Pastor, asociate pastor etc)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/6/2008 2:36:44 PM
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DOND: They do not want you to be in ministry leadership (Such as Pastor, asociate pastor etc)
I don't think this applies to me, but I feel that a woman should support her husband in his calling.
DOND: (S)he HAS to sleep on a certain side of the bed, and it just happens to be the side YOU are used to....
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/6/2008 2:44:02 PM
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DOND: They go quiet every once in a while. Nothing is wrong between you, and they tell you so, they just go quiet.
I'd say deal on that one. I can go quiet sometimes as well.
DOND: They start major home improvment projects that they never finish.
Deal on both. I like quiet, and if I get to use power tools, I would finish the project.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/7/2008 8:35:02 AM
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DOND: (S)he HAS to sleep on a certain side of the bed, and it just happens to be the side YOU are used to....
Deal I can switch. Time for an M story. M was very snuggly. Every night we'd go to sleep on our own sides and she'd start her policy of territorial aggression. Her arm would ned up on my side, her leg would end up on my side and eventually she'd be totally on my side and I'd be falling out on the floor. So I'd run around and get in on her side. And she'd resume her policy of territorial aggression 
Don't get me wrong, I'm snuggly too and loved it, but she would move over to me every time I moved a little bit and eventually I'd work my way out of the bed.
So I became very flexible on which side I slept on.
DOND: From time to time they want/need to take short but separate vacations (say they want to go quilt shopping while you go fishing or vice versa).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/7/2008 8:56:08 AM
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DOND: (S)he HAS to sleep on a certain side of the bed, and it just happens to be the side YOU are used to....
Deal I can switch. Time for an M story. M was very snuggly. Every night we'd go to sleep on our own sides and she'd start her policy of territorial aggression. Her arm would ned up on my side, her leg would end up on my side and eventually she'd be totally on my side and I'd be falling out on the floor. So I'd run around and get in on her side. And she'd resume her policy of territorial aggression
Don't get me wrong, I'm snuggly too and loved it, but she would move over to me every time I moved a little bit and eventually I'd work my way out of the bed.
So I became very flexible on which side I slept on.
DOND: From time to time they want/need to take short but separate vacations (say they want to go quilt shopping while you go fishing or vice versa).
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DOND: From time to time they want/need to take short but separate vacations (say they want to go quilt shopping while you go fishing or vice versa).
Deal on the short separate vacations.
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Ethnic clash- Mom eats weird food that smell and looks disgusting. Whenever she visits (once every 3 years) she'll talk in her language and you know she's talking about you, then starts to make your home smell with whatever it is she's cooking, because her daughter has not eaten properly. Her daughter misses her mom and the cuisine so much. Do you forbid that or would you consider getting one of those camping stoves and have them cook and eat in the garage or patio?
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/8/2008 11:14:53 PM
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Ethnic clash- Mom eats weird food that smell and looks disgusting. Whenever she visits (once every 3 years) she'll talk in her language and you know she's talking about you, then starts to make your home smell with whatever it is she's cooking, because her daughter has not eaten properly. Her daughter misses her mom and the cuisine so much. Do you forbid that or would you consider getting one of those camping stoves and have them cook and eat in the garage or patio?
It's her mother. Which makes her my mother. In our house she cooks in the kitchen. As long as they don't force me to eat it they can cook whatever they like.
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DOND - He/she does not want to hold you by the hand, or put their hand on your waist, or kiss you in public.
They'll need to adjust for this. I'm very affectionate so some contact will happen. If they can't meet me in the middle then they'll miss me.
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DOND: wants to spend a year in Africa without you for missions.
They should have done that before they started dating. No deal. If God calls one of us he'll call both of us. If I didn't get the call it's very highly likely she didn't either. God doesn't split marriages
DOND: They are absolutely disgusted at recent NFL trades.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/10/2008 11:33:34 AM
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DOND: They are absolutely disgusted at recent NFL trades.
Can't we lobby about things like that!!!!!!!!! Should be outlawed.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/16/2008 3:20:20 PM
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DOND: Is more afraid of spiders than you are.
Deal, as long as he is less afraid of roaches and crickets than I am.
DOND: Really likes boiled cabbage sometimes!
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/16/2008 3:42:29 PM
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DOND: Really likes boiled cabbage sometimes!
This is fine. There is a moo-shi chicken recipe that I like to make that uses cabbage - so we are on the same page.
DOND: The person doesn't focus on one thing for long - they have a tendency to jump from thing to thing (in terms of interests, but not jobs).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/16/2008 3:51:11 PM
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losgan
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DOND: The person doesn't focus on one thing for long - they have a tendency to jump from thing to thing (in terms of interests, but not jobs).
Deal, as long as they keep me informed as to what the current "in" thing is (and as long as they aren't spending a fortune on each new interest and then setting it aside forever). I tend to bounce around a few choice interests myself.
DOND: He or she watches movies with the subtitles turned on :)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/16/2008 9:28:07 PM
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DOND: He or she watches movies with the subtitles turned on :)
Deal - I like watching movies with subtitles and/or captioning because it is easy to miss things.
DOND: Works late 3 to 4 nights per week.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/25/2008 8:28:19 PM
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DOND: They go quiet every once in a while. Nothing is wrong between you, and they tell you so, they just go quiet.
Deal! I do this once in a while even when there's nothing wrong.
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DOND: They start major home improvment projects that they never finish.
Deal, but only if he has no problem with me saying "honey, I really want to see this finished. How about we work on this together until it's done." Otherwise, no deal.
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DOND: Must have dinner food fancily arranged on each plate no matter which one of you cooks that night.
I might get annoyed if this happens every night, but I don't mind doing things in a fancy way once a week or so. Deal.
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DOND: The person likes you but isn't "into" you - he/she isn't smitten with you.
No deal!! I want someone who is absolutely smitten with me!
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DOND: They tend to make very quick decisions.
If they are very sound decisions, then deal. But if they're "off-the-cuff" decisions and have no basis, then no deal.
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DOND: They do not want you to be in ministry leadership (Such as Pastor, asociate pastor etc)
That would be fine for me, because I do not believe I've been called into pastoral leadership; however, I have been called into ministry, it is just not pastoral.
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DOND: (S)he HAS to sleep on a certain side of the bed, and it just happens to be the side YOU are used to....
That's fine... just one more of the many adjustments I'll have to make.
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DOND: From time to time they want/need to take short but separate vacations (say they want to go quilt shopping while you go fishing or vice versa).
I think it's perfectly healthy to take separate vacations from time to time, but I look forward to being able to go on vacations together, just to be together.
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DOND - He/she does not want to hold you by the hand, or put their hand on your waist, or kiss you in public.
I'm not one for massive public displays of affection, but again, that's something I'm looking forward to with my hubby.
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DOND: wants to spend a year in Africa without you for missions.
I'd love to go to Africa for a missions trip... if he didn't want me to go, I'd probably be hurt. No deal.
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DOND: Really likes boiled cabbage sometimes!
I'm expecting he'll like foods other than the ones I like. Conversely, I will probably like things he doesn't. Deal.
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DOND: The person doesn't focus on one thing for long - they have a tendency to jump from thing to thing (in terms of interests, but not jobs).
As long as they're stable and this is just an ADHD thing, then deal. I tend to be a little ADHD at times, too.
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DOND: Works late 3 to 4 nights per week.
That could be hard, but we could work things out. Deal.
DOND: Is involved in a lot of activities and may not have long periods of time to devote to you.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/27/2008 4:27:11 PM
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DOND: Is involved in a lot of activities and may not have long periods of time to devote to you.
Depends on how long. If this was always 6 out of 7 nights a week, what would be the point in being married? If he were say, a documentary filmmaker and was gone for say - several weeks out of the year because he was on location or if he traveled and was away for a week for a business trip sometimes, I could deal with that. I could deal with him being away, but not consistently for long periods of time if that makes sense. I think constantly having too many activities and not devoting enough time to your spouse and family though is a recipe for disaster (at least for me). There's too much time for us to grow apart.
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DOND: wants to spend a year in Africa without you for missions.
Nope. We are either going to Africa together (with children in tow if we have them) or we will not be married. Period. If this means that I have to give up my job or even if we had to sell our home (of course, we could make other types of arrangements probably) then so be it. The only way I could see us being apart is if something happened to one of the children and they had to get back to the US for some type of care that they couldn't get abroad.
I've been single for a long time. I don't need any more time apart from my husband. I won't smother him (and don't want him to do that to me), but I definitely want to spend time with him. And I am always up to go somewhere - in fact - I'd be really disappointed if I had a couch potato for a husband. So if he has the calling to be a missionary or move somewhere else - I'm ready to go. Bring it on!
DOND: He/she likes to crack off-color jokes.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/27/2008 9:20:04 PM
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DOND: Is involved in a lot of activities and may not have long periods of time to devote to you.
If he is a pastor yes. I am not a high maintainance person, if he is busy with ministry, I can join him or find something else worthwhile to do.
If not a pastor, no.
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DOND: wants to spend a year in Africa without you for missions.
Nope, I could not do it.
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DOND: He/she likes to crack off-color jokes.
Slightly off color is okay if he knows where not to do it. Very off color, no way.
DOND: Something they do reminds you of a previous husband or boyfriend, and they do it all the time. It does not have to be a bad thing.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 8/28/2008 7:33:53 AM
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DOND: Really likes boiled cabbage sometimes!
Deal. My mom used to make a ham soup that had cabbage and potatoes in it. Pretty tasty really. In fact it's about the only way I eat cabbage.
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DOND: The person doesn't focus on one thing for long - they have a tendency to jump from thing to thing (in terms of interests, but not jobs).
I'd have to say deal as I've been there before. The house tends to accumulate lots of "beginner kits" for various hobbies but that's what yard sales are for. (My house. Sept 18-20. Bring money).
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DOND: He or she watches movies with the subtitles turned on :)
Deal as long as she doesn't want to talk to me at the same time. If she wants to talk we need to turn the TV off.
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DOND: Works late 3 to 4 nights per week.
Deal. As long as it isn't constantly. I see no financial reason for my wife to work long hours (or at all if she doesn't want to)
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DOND: Is involved in a lot of activities and may not have long periods of time to devote to you.
No deal. The marriage has to be the (second) most important relationship in her life. If I'm playing second fiddle then she doesn't value me highly enough to be my wife. Now this doesn't mean that she can't do anything, just that she can't overdo it.
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DOND: wants to spend a year in Africa without you for missions.
That's a totally anti-biblical desire and would be a deal breaker. No Deal.
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DOND: He/she likes to crack off-color jokes.
I don't mind a risque joke every once in a while (Everyone slips up sometimes) but a bunch of them wouldn't sit right at all. No deal
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DOND: Something they do reminds you of a previous husband or boyfriend, and they do it all the time. It does not have to be a bad thing.
This is a hard one to answer. M was a wonderful woman but I'm not looking for another M. If my new wife reminded me of M on some way that would be good, but it's not neccesary. The new wife will be herself and will not be compared to M.
So if she reminded me of M it would be DEAL
If she reminded me of a ex-girlfriend it would be no-deal. I mean they are ex's for a reason.
DOND: They know exactly what they want, and you appear to be it.
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