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Lost my job and... - 11/5/2008 3:03:00 PM
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schizmneutra
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...I don't know how to think of what happened. I know I'm supposed to forgive and forget but it's so hard when I don't know what happened.
I was a leasing agent for a Muslim couple, who own a lot of property in my town, and in a couple of other towns statewide. This is the SECOND time I have been 'released' from my job there, and this time there was not even an EXCUSE as to why I was let go.
What hurts the most is, I have been sharing the bible with the owner's wife, who was previously exposed to Christianity while they lived in California through a Christian Jordanian couple. The wife has been sharing the Koran with me, and I got a book from the library, after being prompted by the Holy Spirit, so I could more fully understand the differences between our beliefs and therefore give her the correct information she would need to, perhaps, decide on Christianity.
She and I have become rather close, and I have begun to regard her as a daughter. I am just so downhearted to think that the enemy has put this problem between us now. I went home from work last Tuesday after saying goodbye, and she said goodbye...then she called me and told me I was no longer needed. I know she was upset with me because I had given her some HUD rulings and laws to follow up on regarding some placements from our waiting list...and I heard her talking on her cell phone in the other office in her native language where my name was mentioned quite a few times. Her tone of voice was not friendly then.
She knows my monetary situation, that I have a disabled son and rely on my miniscule paycheck to survive from week to week...I just can't fathom why she would not give me at LEAST a week's notice so I could arrange my budget accordingly.
After talking with my cousin, who is a tax consultant, and asking if I need an attorney to recover some of the overtime I was never paid for, or how to go about getting my tax information from these people...I just have come to the conclusion I do NOT want to go back to that office to recover anything, including my personal items.
The verses from Mark 6:6-13 keep popping up in my head...to shake the dust from my feet and move on. The sadness of my heart in losing what could have been a most rewarding Christian relationship weighs on me...not to mention the prospect of my friend losing her soul. Does anyone have a word of comfort for me, or some bit of advice I may use at this time? Thank you for reading.
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RE: Lost my job and... - 11/5/2008 3:31:57 PM
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deermousie
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Wow, I'm sorry; this is a hard blow. Please start looking for a new job immediately if you haven't already started.
You didn't say whether you are a man or a woman. If a man, being friends with a female Muslim can get her killed. It happens.
If you're a woman, I'm guessing you were too much of a threat. Remember that it's a spiritual battle, and God wins, even if the skirmishes don't look good. Expect Him to do something wonderful, even if He doesn't tell you about it until heaven.
You'll have to put this dismissal on your resume when you apply for other jobs, so you might want to take legal action for a illegal dismissal and to recover what you are owed, as that's the law. They have to pay you.
What an uncomfortable place to be. May God bring great good of this soon! I am praying for you today.
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RE: Lost my job and... - 11/5/2008 5:50:55 PM
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pbaribeault
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Why is this a personal issue for you. They could have been nicer, I guess, but if they don't need you... they don't need you. It's not an insult, and there doesn't need to be an 'excuse'. (I assume an "agent" is self employed, a contractor.) The reason this has happened to you twice is that it is a normal part of the working world. Business people don't pay for the services of someone who they don't need. There is no need to be humiliated, hurt or anything else. You don't need to cut off contact with them.
There is not even any reason (that I can see) that you need to forgive them -- they have not sinned against you (being inconsiderate is not a sin) unless they continue to refrain from paying you after you have sent them a written statement of what you believe you are owed and why.
Ethically they should pay what they owe, and you might check labor regulations to see if they owe you pay in lieu of notice (they would in Canada). Research it and write up a letter telling them that you expect to be paid within 2 weeks. Send it by mail if you would rather not drop in. If you do drop in, gather your things, be cool but pleasant, and hand over, 'this letter about my final pay check'. Ask if there is anything you can do to make the transition easier for the business, and offer to go out for coffee sometime with your friend.
If they choose not to pay you in a timely manner, they have sinned by stealing from you. Whether you choose to pursue that or let it go, in your heart you can reach towards forgiveness of that action.
As far as your witnessing: One plants, another waters, and God provides the increase. There is no reason not to entrust this friend's soul to the next thing that God has on His agenda for her life.
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RE: Lost my job and... - 11/5/2008 7:26:50 PM
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barbi
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praying for you
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RE: Lost my job and... - 11/6/2008 8:43:53 AM
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buckifn
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Mixing business and friendship and religious belief's are all 3 bad ideas. Maybe this happened so you can learn not to do that?
I don't know...but please think about it and ask God to help you separate your business from your personal life and honor Him in all areas. I pray you find another job soon and learn how to set approp. boundaries.
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RE: Lost my job and... - 11/6/2008 2:33:31 PM
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markvh
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You have received a lot of good advice already, there is some good wisdom in what has already been said. I would add that in my experience, difficult situations can be an integral part of God's greater plan for your good, and He will most likely use all of it to bring blessings into your future as long as you commit all of it to prayer and do not harbor any wrong feelings about it. Sometimes God sets us up with very difficult people so that we can extend Grace to them, being the Jesus that they see in their life, and storing up more Grace for your future. Either way, you can see it as a good thing, and keep praying about even the little things as they come into your mind, -not allowing a foothold for the enemy.
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