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Living with someone who won't... - 11/3/2008 3:53:18 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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...take care of themselves.
One of the ways we show love to our families is by taking care of ourselves. But what do we do when a loved one isn't taking care of themself? This can take many forms whether it be with their weight, diet (diabetes, cholesterol, ect), hygiene, exercise, taking proper meds, smoking or whatever.
It is can be really stressful, demoralizing and frustrating for the whole family. It can also cause hardships when their health suffers from their lack of caring. Then is also possible heart break when contemplating possibly losing our loved ones earlier than need be.
I have situation like this right now. Sometimes, it drives me to tears, and sometimes I am good. I am actually doing good with it as the person in question is doing much better than she used to. I know that there are many on here that are caring for or living with loved ones that don't consistently care about their own health, if at all.
This not a debate thread. Many of us trust our doctors and what we see enough to know what is needed.
This thread is for encouragement and uplifting each other in prayer as we continue to love those who do not seem to love themselves, and may sometimes make us feel like they aren't loving and caring for us either.
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RE: Living with someone who won't... - 11/3/2008 7:48:35 PM
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Roberta_
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Ellie - I will certainly be in prayer for you. I see this in our family all too often.
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RE: Living with someone who won't... - 11/3/2008 8:41:31 PM
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This is something happening in my family at times it makes me angry, at times it makes me sad and at other times it makes me frustrated. Let's lift each other up in prayer that this will be overcome!!
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RE: Living with someone who won't... - 11/4/2008 3:57:40 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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It is hard not to feel angry sometimes. While I love Aunt Shirley dearly and will gladly change bedpans if she needs it, it is another thing when she was doing things that would make that more likely when it doesn't HAVE to be that way.
You can't control what they do, only what you do. We have gotten to the place where I have been able to finally have some peace with it. She still eats way too many calories and sweats on the whole, but to offset that a bit I can say that she is willfully trying to keep her strength up so that if she has a set back, she isn't bedridden. So at least she is trying to take a little more responsibility for herself. She has actually come a long way.
I remember going through the heartbreak of wondering why she wasn't fighting harder to stay around for the kids, and feeling awful at the though that she might not be around long enough for the kids to really enjoy her and for her to really enjoy the kids.
One of the things that I was able to do is to just not have sweets around the house or to store sugary or fattening stuff where she could easily get it.
Like I said, we are doing pretty good right now, but I know that it wasn't with out stress, hard work, and tears. It doesn't usually come out the way we picture things, because we are dealing with humans... and we are human ourselves. Sometimes it doesn't work out at all, but we still have to take care of ourselves.
His, I am praying for both you and your hubby. It is a bad sign when a mile walk can wind you, especially when one used to be fit. About your hubby's father dying so young: It seems like he would want to do better and live longer, but that doesn't always follow. Sometimes they figure it is inevitable no matter what they do. I don't know if that is your Hubby, but the mind sometimes comes to some weird conclusions. Are your kids aware that this is going on?
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