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Help - 10/13/2008 2:44:08 PM
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AslansChild
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My response to the overweight women thread prompted me to post here. I know that my marriage could be alot better. I know that I need to deal with my emotions/anger much better but at what point should my wife take responsibility for her laziness,lack of self motivation and personal appearance. She has basically gone from a friend/partner/lover to a combatant. For the past ten years (I have a point of reference to go from so this is not an estimate) I have raised the kids, done the housework, made the money, and catered to her needs. I am tired, I basically want to quit my 9-5 well paying job and become a checkout clerk at the local supermarket. If it were not for my kids I probably would. I need prayer, for me and for my wife. Thanks.
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RE: Help - 10/15/2008 11:26:59 AM
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terryjohn
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Get all excited for you really can work out your own salvation with fear and trembling in that a spouses salvation can not and should not impact on your own. Righteousness in the face of all that oppresses us has its own rewards. I expect nothing of my wife and am therefore grateful for anything she does. Without a clear personal vision of what we want to be in Christ we are lost and I fear far too many of us do not share our visions with our spouses.
If our work or families get in the way of our relationship with God then we might as well be lost. I set a strong pace for my family to keep up with but what others do or do not do is none of my business for I must follow Christ. Allowing others to suffer the consequences of their foolishness is tough love and only upon seeing it do they see the error of their ways and repent.
As we are all dying, we all should start making the most of the time we have left by committing ourselves fully to the things of God, and if our loved ones will not, that is their mistake not ours and should never prevent us of doing what the love of God wants of us.
If you want to shake up your family from their slumber, then go on short term missions, get involved with all the church is doing and they will once they see your faith and love be convinced that Christ should be their savour too.
It is good to love your family but not at the expense of faith.
P.S. I did give up my high paying job and the family did not like it but then again it was not their job and I do not love them any less. They have all they need, not all they want. If that is not enough, then it is my duty in Christ to show them otherwise. My philosophy is that those who know better should do better and thus I try.
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