Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either Chick Or Babe?
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Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either Chic... - 7/19/2008 6:40:03 AM
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humbleinspirit
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I know that in the past that I have met one or two women who felt that way, but other women just see it as a general term towards women in general. How do you feel about these everyday terms?
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 9:35:25 AM
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Chick doesn't bother me. I refer to myself as chick sometimes. I guess because it is used in other ways (i.e. chick flick, chick lit [books geared towards women], and the like). I've never been referred to as "babe" (at least not within earshot) although I'll get "baby" a lot. (Either baby or ma'am :) I personally don't like someone calling me baby unless it is someone who is very close to me, because I consider it to be intimate. I guess babe would be ok although I've never really thought to apply that term to myself.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 12:03:26 PM
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ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
I know that in the past that I have met one or two women who felt that way, but other women just see it as a general term towards women in general. How do you feel about these everyday terms?
I don't care if guys call me babe. A few of my guy friends call me that.
But that bothers me, because I would only a boyfriend to call me that...no one else.
Or husband. Whichever.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 12:06:00 PM
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Chick doesn't bother me. I refer to myself as chick sometimes. I guess because it is used in other ways (i.e. chick flick, chick lit [books geared towards women], and the like). I've never been referred to as "babe" (at least not within earshot) although I'll get "baby" a lot. (Either baby or ma'am :) I personally don't like someone calling me baby unless it is someone who is very close to me, because I consider it to be intimate. I guess babe would be ok although I've never really thought to apply that term to myself.
Yeah, I'm not a big fan when guys call me "baby".
My last boyfriend called me "boo".
I'm like, "WHAT?!" hahaha.
& I absolutely hated it and I told him that, but he didn't respect me so he kept calling me that.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 12:27:40 PM
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I posted this same topic in the male forum. Yeah, it bothers me when a man calls me sweetie or baby. Unless I'm dating him, I don't want to be referred as those because it feels somewhat condescending. I guess I get this thing a lot because I have a few male friends that i hang out with and most of them test the waters.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 12:47:51 PM
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humbleinspirit
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GTMA Prairie! Honestly I had been thinking about this topic just this past week then I saw your thread as well.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 1:13:56 PM
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I'm listening to my Jon Secada CD as I write this so I hope I express myself well.
Firstly, I don't like the word "chick" at all. Ugh! (shiver) Don't want to be called that at all.
On the other hand "babe" is tolerable, but as usual it depends on the circumstances. If I'm walking down the road and guys in a "respectful" way refer to me as "babe" I'll tolerate it. After all they don't know my name and they want to make a positive (not crude) comment. In these circumstances I prefer "babe" to "it".
I don't really like to be called "babe" by guys who are my friends. If I'm called "babe" in that situation, I will think that they're trying to change the relationship from friendship to something more. If that's not their intention then they will just confuse me.
Being called "babe" by someone who I'm in a relationship with - is not tolerable at all. I think that they could put a little more effort into coming up with an endearment. I prefer some other less common name with more meaning attached to it e.g. sweetheart, my love or those cute french terms (blush, blush)  .
Having said all that what I really like is when I'm called by my name, I think that's really powerful. Whenever I want to get my guy's attention I call him by his name, then tone of voice, intonation, mood etc. play a really important part. I used to date a guy who would always call me by my last name prefaced by Ms. - that is not acceptable at all - not good at all. After a while I began to wonder if he knew my first name at all  .
That's my input humbleinspirit - so it's back to Jon Secada for me  
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 1:15:27 PM
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Thank you everyone for your input so far!
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/19/2008 9:41:26 PM
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I dislike both those terms. We raised chickens when I was young and to me "chick" is a little, yellow fuzzball. It will not elicit a positive response from me.
"Babe" no, just no.
Though for some reason I've never minded being called "girl", which seems (to me) to be just as ...inconsiderate (not quite the right word, but close) as chick or babe.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/20/2008 1:09:27 AM
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Don't care for either. But there are worse names that I could be called.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/20/2008 1:32:33 AM
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At my age, I think I would fall on the floor, laughing! But don't call me sister (I'm not your sister!), don't call me lady (that's a dog), don't call me Mrs. (my husband's name) (I have a personal identity), and if you like me at all, don't call me ma'am, I don't care how old either of us are. Don't tell your babies they must call me ma'am either. I go by my first name with everyone.
Oh, yeah, and I am not a "girl" or a "gal."
< Message edited by Covaan_Meshuga -- 7/20/2008 2:37:00 AM >
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/20/2008 10:21:34 AM
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Chick doesn't bother me in the least. I use that word a dozen times a day.
Babe is for your significant other.
The rest fall into some gray area in the middle. I have some very close guy friends that I've known for years and years and years. I've been known to address them as "Sweets" or "Honey" or whatever and likewise.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/20/2008 4:51:31 PM
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I agree with Stellaluna.
Chick doesn't really bother me, because I use that term myself. But Babe and other such sweetsy names are used by my guy only.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/21/2008 4:51:18 PM
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I don't like to hear it... it's too boyfriend/husbandish. That's just my opinion. Yeah, they're sweetsy.
I've never had anyone call me either, though.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/22/2008 12:06:34 AM
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I don't like chick at all. It just sounds disrespectful to me.
The only person that I want calling me babe/baby is my husband.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/22/2008 12:37:00 AM
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Good gravy! Chief, your screenname is hysterical.... in a disgusting sort of way.
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