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? for former SAHM's - 8/19/2008 4:19:56 PM   
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I've been a SAHM for over 8 years. My husband has been very supportive about me being so. He enjoys being the provider and has always told me I can work when I'm ready . Well, I'm ready and I have been for a while but have had to get over some "issues." Some, still linger such as, since it's been so long I'm kind of paranoid about getting out there and quitting because I've been so used to being at home. And, what if once I start working we then begin to depend on my income(we'll begin home shopping soon)and I may not want to stick with it ...yada, yada, yada. I do have work history, although it hasn't been strong since my college days. So, I guess I'd love to hear from those of you who've BTDT. And perhaps advice on resumes since i'ts been so long since I've had steady employment.

Thanks, ladies
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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 12:02:39 AM   
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You may want to use a functional resume instead of a chronological one.

That is, list your skills and accomplishments and not dates.

When you begin working, put your paychecks into savings or pay off debt.
Don't add your income to the amount available for spending.

Then, if the job doesn't work out, the family budget will be fine.


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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 12:56:18 PM   
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Thanks for your response peace. I'm going to assume that there are not many former SAHM's in this forum...otherwise, with only one response, I'd feel oh so unloved .
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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 12:58:43 PM   
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Though I'm not a former SAHM I do have a suggestion about your income...

You could continue to live off of just your husband's income and put your paychecks directly into a special savings account so that if you find that working outside the home just doesn't suit you or that for some odd reason you lose the job once you've gotten it your family finances won't be overburdened.


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Thanks for your response peace. I'm going to assume that there are not many former SAHM's in this forum...otherwise, with only one response, I'd feel oh so unloved .



I don't think it's wise for anyone to measure their self worth (or 'love') by forums responses...but rather by the Love and Value that our Heavenly Father has shown us in His Saving Grace.

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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 1:34:03 PM   
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Yes, I have contemplated putting my checks into savings and paying off debt. I guess I'm a bit anxious and excited about returning to work and was curious as to the experience of others.

ClagforChrist, and I'm sure the love and grace of our Father is demonstrated thru you . (I'm a big girl, not to be taken too seriously ). Thanks for your reply!
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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 6:40:57 PM   
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Yes, I have contemplated putting my checks into savings and paying off debt. I guess I'm a bit anxious and excited about returning to work and was curious as to the experience of others.

ClagforChrist, and I'm sure the love and grace of our Father is demonstrated thru you . (I'm a big girl, not to be taken too seriously ). Thanks for your reply!



I think that would be very wise, since we are to be good stewards of our income...and by being a good steward we should not be 'overly' outstanding in debt to anyone. If you've got debt and your husband's salary/paycheck pays all the regular bills then it is very prudent of you to not spend your income but to have it directly wire transfered into an account that you pay your 'debt' bills from.

I'm glad that you didn't take my response in the wrong way. It just seemed from what you said that you were trying to guilt others into having pity on you or throwing a bit of a pity-party for yourself because you've not gotten many responses to your thread. It's probably just because the title of your thread makes those of us that are SAHM's think, "Oh that's not me, I probably don't have anything to respond to". KWIM?

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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 6:45:42 PM   
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most in this folder are SAHM/W's....if you want more responses from those that have BTDT with regard to finances, then maybe you should have a mod move this to the financial folder instead. You may get more responses that way.

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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 8:47:54 PM   
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I'm not a stay at home mom, but I have been in and out of the work force due to health reasons, and it is a big change both ways. I am not feeling too well today, so I'll be back later.

< Message edited by OneOfHisJewels -- 8/21/2008 12:52:35 AM >


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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/20/2008 9:25:34 PM   
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I stay at home and work. I run two successful businesses and people still treat me like I just sit around all day and do nothing. I am looking forward to dissolving one of my businesses, but keeping the other just because I know that when and if I want to get a job working for somebody else, it is going to be a hard transition because I am used to being in charge and I hate being scheduled.

As for the money, everybody else hit it right on the head. Take your money and save it or pay off debts, and then when those are gone, save it. That way, you will have something to fall back on if something does happen.
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RE: ? for former SAHM's - 8/21/2008 3:07:43 AM   
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At the beginning of this year I returned to the workforce after 9 years as a SAHM.

I second what was said about a functional resume, but there is nothing wrong with a chronological resume. Just be prepared to answer the questions you know are going to come up about your abilities and skills.

Remember, if you were capable of something before you stayed at home, you have not lost those skills - they're just a little rusty maybe.

Also, assess the things you've done while a SAHM for how they might transfer over to the workforce and don't be frightened to build a cover letter which shows those skills, even if those skills were in a home environment a potential employer doesn't care where you used them, just whether you're capable of them.

I know, for me, being a homeschooling Mum gave me some really transferable skills when I got back into the workforce in an admin role.

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